Recent content by IanK

I had to clear it with my wife to be able to share that information. Sorry. I did include it afterwards, I could have left it out but I didnt.

Hi, I am reading everything everyone is saying, I am just tying to take it all in and try to figure alot of stuff out. Thank you for all your replies, and I will continue to read the thread, and hopefully come up with some sort of response to all the questions. Yes she never would have done...

Hi Kevin, Things are getting better. Lines of communications are opened up. I still get those jealousy pangs. Thinking about her going to Norway for a month at the end of august is giving me bubbe gut. My wife has made more of an effort. I found keeping busy during the day and not looking over...

Ok, heres the story. I would say about 10 years ago, I was lazy and was getting my wife to do all the work, take the kids to and from school, shop, cook, clean, and I wasnt much of a help, this was the root of the problem. Fastforward to 2 /12 years ago, my wifes suffered a catastrophic brain...

HI everyone, I have been reading and trying the best way to answer all your questions. I will get it to it tonight and give you feedback and answers. I just have to gather all the info and write my answer. I truley appreciate everyones responses, itws been a great help to me, and will need...

If you feel this post should go in the other thead I will move it there and you can delete this one. thanks

ok I have the other thrread going but I dont want to sound like a broken record and make people think Iam not heeding their advice. I am extremly jealous, I always want to know what my wife is talking to her bf about, I dont ask but feel like I want to. Ive gone over the new and shiny in the...

Hi, I have posted befoe and have read all the materials, gone thew every post, done every excersize that was given to me but I need someone who has experienced jealousy and envy to talk to live in person on the phone or threw personal text or whatsapp. I have so many issues going threw my head...

She left me for a guy in Norway, then 5 weeks later wanted to come back, when she came back she wanted to be with him. She wants both of us. I agreed to this as the only way to save our marriage. I am going to speak up. I have no escape plan. Iam affraid if I speak up she will leave again. Its...

Thanks for the info, I will get her to read some stuff on NRE's and research more on a succesfull poly relationship. I have to learn to be competely ok with this.

How long does it take for this nre to wear off and she returrns to nornal again? whay can I do to advocate for more of her time. When she talks to him shes sweet and soft, giggling, smiling non stop, she never ever does that with me and its driving me crazy, is it normal and how do I deal with it?

I feel like third fiddle to her new life. I should be #2 and her kids #1 but she puts starmaker appp and her bf as #1 and 2 me #3 and kids #4. I have to beg to spend one on one time with her. She constantly talking to her bf on whatsapp and messanger and in that app more then shes with me and...

I was just curious being new. I knew the answer already and mentioned it in my post. She does spend more time with him then me, shes on whatsapp several hours aa day with him evveryday. I get very limited time because Iam taking care of the kids. I wasnt sure what bounderies are acceptable and...

Me and my wife just entered a poly realtionship, we brought in her boyfriend she really loves. We have been married almost 26 years and they have known eachother for 1 1/2 years, been sexually active since Feb of this year. Is it wrong of me to ask anytime she wants to do something with him, I...

Thanks guys, we are looking over all the literature thats provided and talking about bouderies. I still get jealousy pangs but my wife assures me she isnt going anywhere which helps alot. I can imagine it will take me a few months to get used to the idea iam not the only one. She has also opened...