Recent content by islandgy9

Apologies for not knowing the protocol, thank you for the adjustments. Thank you also for your thoughts and comments. The outcome is still unfolding.

"The road goes on forever and the party never ends..." It’s 5 am and I’m a little punchy. Been up since 4 trying to figure this one out, so I thought I’d reach out to old friends. Can someone shed some insight so I can get some sleep? Yet another teary discussion last night with my...

Inyourendo~ Lily (L) *specifically requested internal skin to skin contact be between she and I only. * If you meant using the 'withdraw before you cum' practice thats another thing. *That option isn't on the table due to the little swimmers that jump the gun before the big bang.. ****That is...

Inyourendo, *I truly believe I am the only person, other than each other that T&J have sex with so I feel 'safe' regarding Std's. * I've had a few casual relationships over the last few years and always used condomswith these relationships *when having sex with them. Not quite sure what you...

Question: *Is 'required' condom usage a reasonable request/boundary for oso's by ones primary? Background : My primary girlfriend, 'L' (50) and I (52) have known each other for 3 years *are in a long distance *relationship (she lives in Texas and I live in Florida). *We see each other about...

I've been seeing a married mf couple for 10 years, I'm male. When all three of us interact equally we call it "we3". When I interact with J (female) alone we refer to each other as 'lovers'. J's husband, T, refers to me as 'his wife's lover' and she as 'your lover'. T and I together refer to...

Hi Gala Girl, I'm working off an iPhone, and I don't think I can highlight specific sentences/questions to answer. Hopefully your quoted questions followed by my attempts to answer will make sense. I'll try to clarify: "Does that mean that in your polyship arrangements, there is the standard...

Does anybody else have difficulty with double standards? Being the way I am, I don't understand why I have trouble feeling comfortable/totally accepting if my significant others are the same way I am. I think I'm having hypothetical double standard issues. I'm trying to place myself in my...

I totally get it/feel it! The first couple (well, second-- the first couple didn't pan out) MF couple I was with, I actually felt a 'click,' like something that was missing in my life suddenly fell in sync with the universe. It was an actual acute sensation that truly helped put my life in...

Hey Schismist, If these four experiences were 'first dates,' solely implied sexual encounters, perhaps you simply need to spend some time getting to know your new friends, or maybe start with one and get to know her. Opening your relationship goes against our society's and culture's dictation...

Hi MsFickle, I wonder the same thing... I agree with the folks here that say every relationship is different. I think it's possible to have more emotional involvement than swinging seems to offer ( I've heard the term 'sport fucking' here before) but not as involved as a full life partnership...

I posted some stuff months ago and was 'repremanded' for 'using' all those damn asterichs (*)... allbeit inadvertently. I get bounced off a lot as my service is sketchy... If I post again I'll appologize ahead of time for the ****'s, cuz it's way to frustrating to have my significantly self...

Help?... This is the problem I was talking about. I did not type on any asterich (*) in the following paragraph but they appear when I view print preview. I draft, then cut and paste from the notepad feature on my iPhone. How can I prevent the asterichs from appearing. It seems if I type...

When I preview (or post) a thread I wrote, each sentance starts and ends with an asteric. HOW DO I STOP THIS. I'm using an iPhone 3G... I know, it's an antique... Although it didn't happen here..

Hi Opal, I didn't mean to come across as judgmental as to pure polyamory/love vs. swinging or sport fucking (that last term sounded kind of derogatory to even me! :oops:). People like/want/need different things, that's all. It just seems to me that in some posts/threads "swinging" has been...