‘The road goes on forever and the party never ends...’
It’s 5 am and I’m a little punchy... been up since 4 trying to figure this one out so I thought I’d reach out to old friends. Can someone shed some insight so I can get some sleep...
Yet another teary discussion last night with my societorialycultured monogamous beloved. She has known from the onset of our relationship I am poly, not without struggle. I tried to gently let her know I wanted to explore the possibility of re-kindling a relationship with a longtime friend and former lover Tp. My intimate relationship with Tp was going on when I met Bb, about 6 years ago. Reasons for Tp and my reversion to platonic was due to emotional communication difficulties ( she wanted to keep things ‘light’ but with more time together while at the same time her canceling dates due to her busy schedule with her kids. There was also a big issue of Bb’s stipulation for us (Tp and me) to keep our dates short ie. 2 hours or so on an infrequent basis. Regardless, I’m hoping perhaps some of those factors have changed enough for Tp and I to share the good things we had.
Ideally, IF Tp is interested in Re-establishing (I haven’t even talked to her about this yet) a relationship and wants as I do to be physical that would be my much welcomed on my part. If Tp would like to see each other more but keep it platonic I will adjust my paradigm and be joyful for that. HOWEVER...Bb has made it clear she does not want me to have any kind of relationship with Tp but will tolerate a platonic one.
Finally, here is my problem: Why can I accept the possibility of TP’s desire not to be physical but i can’t seem to internalize that limiting factor from Bb? Does this make any sense? I have a 15 year ongoing friends & more relationship with a married couple that Bb has accepted and Bb was ‘tolerant’ of a physical relationship I had with a married poly woman. Bb said “I’m putting my foot down on this potential relationship with Tp.” Thoughts?
It’s 5 am and I’m a little punchy... been up since 4 trying to figure this one out so I thought I’d reach out to old friends. Can someone shed some insight so I can get some sleep...
Yet another teary discussion last night with my societorialycultured monogamous beloved. She has known from the onset of our relationship I am poly, not without struggle. I tried to gently let her know I wanted to explore the possibility of re-kindling a relationship with a longtime friend and former lover Tp. My intimate relationship with Tp was going on when I met Bb, about 6 years ago. Reasons for Tp and my reversion to platonic was due to emotional communication difficulties ( she wanted to keep things ‘light’ but with more time together while at the same time her canceling dates due to her busy schedule with her kids. There was also a big issue of Bb’s stipulation for us (Tp and me) to keep our dates short ie. 2 hours or so on an infrequent basis. Regardless, I’m hoping perhaps some of those factors have changed enough for Tp and I to share the good things we had.
Ideally, IF Tp is interested in Re-establishing (I haven’t even talked to her about this yet) a relationship and wants as I do to be physical that would be my much welcomed on my part. If Tp would like to see each other more but keep it platonic I will adjust my paradigm and be joyful for that. HOWEVER...Bb has made it clear she does not want me to have any kind of relationship with Tp but will tolerate a platonic one.
Finally, here is my problem: Why can I accept the possibility of TP’s desire not to be physical but i can’t seem to internalize that limiting factor from Bb? Does this make any sense? I have a 15 year ongoing friends & more relationship with a married couple that Bb has accepted and Bb was ‘tolerant’ of a physical relationship I had with a married poly woman. Bb said “I’m putting my foot down on this potential relationship with Tp.” Thoughts?