Recent content by Ivylein

De Beauvoir and Sartre were my heroes in college. I think it's one of the reasons why I've been polyamorous for 32 years.

Autonomy? One of the biggest reasons I chose polyamory is that it offers more autonomy to the participants than monogamy. I just cannot imagine having a partner that would go this berzerk over a Skype. I run my own life, am friends with people I choose, and communicate with them as I see fit...

It's times like these when I consider, "Would I hurt less if this person wasn't in my life?". If the answer is no, it would hurt the same or worse, then forgive and be happy for the time you do have together. It's not fair to speculate how he would be handling his mother-in-law, because he...

Hi Perrey, welcome!

Ice Cream for the win! It takes great courage to continue to love when you're frightened. I think that if you can continue to be generous with her, this other internet thing is going to burn out.

Yeah I know People always make time for things they really want to do.

powerpuffgrl1969 what is your problem? Are you involved in this situation? Have you offered any advice of your own? Do you realize a full 28% of everything you've ever posted is to rag on me? I'm seeing InTheDark as a guy who wants to save his marriage, and is coming at it in an adversarial...

One of the requirements for a new city is that it be snow/ice free. I struggle with the change of seasons, and I'm too fragile to slip and fall on the ice. Colorado would be lovely if I was younger, I used to love to ski!

Umm, because what he is doing right now is not working? Seriously, the choices are make it better or break up. If he wants to make it better, he's got to get more creative. This dom person of hers needs a wake up call that he's not in charge.

Thanks! Thank you for the welcomes. It's so cozy here! I have done my homework with regard to Austin, the little blue dot in the mighty red state. I suppose I can do my part to turn Texas purple. The light went off in my head when I heard that Austin's slogan is "Keep Austin Weird". If...

Polyamory as a fuck-you to compulsory monogamy I decided to be polyamorous before the word was invented. As a young woman, I read an essay by Adrienne Rich called "Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence". It spoke to me, as someone struggling with her sexual orientation, and with...

Thanks for friending :-)

I've been off of OkCupid for a while; the dating pool in my area is the size of a puddle, and trying to make it work with someone in St. Louis just didn't work. I couldn't find anyone willing to drive the 2 hours to visit me, so all the driving wound up on my shoulders. Out of the blue I got...

This so much!!!!!!!!!!!:D

Huckabee vowed to repeal gay marriage, but he's gone baby gone, and good riddance.