Radfem from Quincy, IL

Ivylein

Ivylein

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Hello polyamory.com!

I'm a longtime lurker, and I'm sick of the Facebook poly groups. I'm sick of Facebook altogether actually. I'm bisexual, in a 32 year non-monogamous marriage, and am currently celibate. My partner has high blood pressure and diabetes, and that, along with the medicine he takes, has pretty much put our sex life to bed. We're still family, and plan on living together as long as we live. I had a fwb up until a few months ago, but he was very young and completely changed his life around. I wish him well.

I am a radical feminist, an atheist, and was a bisexual activist for many years until we moved to the midwest. I am bored out of my mind living in a small town, and am looking forward to moving to Austin, TX in the next year or so. If you are a radical feminist, an atheist, or a bisexual activist, please friend me :)

I have one grown child who still lives with us, and have sworn off more children and more pets. I like my freedom, and would rather, at this point in my life, work on having a career than taking on more care-taking duties.

My dream home would have self-contained apartments with shared living areas, to provide privacy for each person. I've been looking at floorplans, and at Zillow, and have pretty much decided I need a custom home. Even a home with a casita, or a modified duplex, just aren't quite right for what I'm looking for.

When we move, I want to go out to nightclubs, attend the theatre, and have a more active social life. I enjoy craft beer, sweetish wine, and weed at bedtime.
 
Greetings Ivylein,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

[raises hand] Fellow atheist here! :D (I will send you a friend request.) I think you will like Austin, it has quite a few poly folks.

Glad you could join us.
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Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Ivylein said:
Hello polyamory.com!


I am a radical feminist, an atheist, and was a bisexual activist for many years until we moved to the midwest. I am bored out of my mind living in a small town, and am looking forward to moving to Austin, TX in the next year or so. If you are a radical feminist, an atheist, or a bisexual activist, please friend me :)
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Hello, and welcome to the boards!

I'd say I'm more a radical atheist, feminist, and bisexual activist :D I lived in a small, very religious area for several years (mostly unwillingly, and I fled as soon as possible), so I entirely sympathize. From what I hear, though I've never been there, you should love Austin, though, so hang in there!!
 
You will love Austin!!! It's my escape when the red-state bullshit here in Dallas wears me down.

Fellow atheist, not bi, feminist, but sadly too busy to be radical about anything these days ;)

Also, fellow house plan junkie :) We are building a vacation home and I've spent the last two years of my life on Houzz, it's a great site for inspiration. I've seen some amazing plans that were basically groupings of freestanding small buildings connected by breezeways or glass hallways. There would usually be one central building with kitchen/dining/living areas, and the others would each have a bed/bath/private sitting room. I totally would have gone that route for our build if we had the money!

Oh, um, welcome to the forum by the way :D
 
My wife The Signal grew up not far from Quincy. I think she would characterize herself as atheist, feminist (radicalism tempered by her logical nature), and bisexual as well...though she is not on this board as she does not identify as polyamorous.

.I agree, you will love Austin, there is much more of a community which you will fit into. Good luck on the move and I hope you find what you are looking for on this forum!
 
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Thanks!

Thank you for the welcomes. It's so cozy here!

I have done my homework with regard to Austin, the little blue dot in the mighty red state. I suppose I can do my part to turn Texas purple.

The light went off in my head when I heard that Austin's slogan is "Keep Austin Weird". If Austin is proud of their weirdness, then that is exactly where I want to be.

OnceAndFuture, radical feminism does not preclude a logical nature. Just so you know!
 
Hi! I'm not particularly radical about much, but I'm a solid humanist, bi(sapio?)sexual, a lover of logic and fairness and people being good to each other. I have a vague sort of faith (mostly made up by me and having a lot to do with the wonders of science) and no particular interest or love for religion.

I'm a thinker, and pretty much any subject is too complicated for a single word label in my reality.

I wonder...I know your plans are Austin, but have you ever looked into Colorado, or the Pacific Northwest? Now granted, the PNW is gloomy and expensive and far from everything else, but it's beautiful and SUPER WEIRD. Colorado Springs is where I hang my hat these days and I'm loving how it's really weird in a quiet "you have no idea how weird we are here" sort of way. Manitou Springs is another little place with the "Keep <city> Weird" slogan going strong. I only mention all of this because you like your weed, and it's legal here, and in the PNW. Consider visiting Colorado sometime, since TX isn't THAT far away. It's not a bad place to hatch out some long term dreams. My favorite part is most definitely the people. People here have managed to blend the honesty of the East with the happy/friendly attitude of the West, the hospitality of the South and the pragmatism of the Midwest. Friendly but not fake, adventuresome but not impractical. I love it!

As an artist, I now plan to carry out my long term creative ambitions here.

Anyhow best of luck in your endeavors and quest for weirdness! :)
 
Here in Washington, our saying is, "Keep Vashon weird." Sigh, my favorite island.
 
Spork said:
I wonder...I know your plans are Austin, but have you ever looked into Colorado, or the Pacific Northwest?
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One of the requirements for a new city is that it be snow/ice free. I struggle with the change of seasons, and I'm too fragile to slip and fall on the ice. Colorado would be lovely if I was younger, I used to love to ski!
 
Ivylein said:
One of the requirements for a new city is that it be snow/ice free. I struggle with the change of seasons, and I'm too fragile to slip and fall on the ice. Colorado would be lovely if I was younger, I used to love to ski!
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They do occasionally get a bit of winter down in TX, ya know...but it's my understanding that everything pretty much shuts down when they do. It's like that up in the PNW also...it rains mostly, but then there are sun-breaks that make everything sparkle, and it's like a miracle happening when that happens. The plants all stay super green all winter, and everything is covered in ferns and moss. Only thing I didn't like once I got used to the weather up there, was that in the winter, it's not usually freezing temps, but it's so wet that the chill just gets under your skin. It feels colder than it is, because it's also wet.

But I definitely enjoyed living up there, for a time.

I have no interest at all in skiing, snowboarding, etc. Seems a fine way to break your neck, to me. And I hate being cold. But we have a secret here. Our winters in Colorado Springs aren't actually very cold at all. We will get a snow event now and then that blows through, but in between, it will usually be sunny and anywhere from 50 to 70 degrees. You might get a solid week of warm sunshine between winter weather days. And when it does snow, it usually melts and vanishes within a day. Colorado Springs is actually a high altitude desert ecosystem. We've got cacti, and scorpions out here. But everybody just thinks of snow and mountains... :) I can SEE snow and mountains from where I stand, but I FEEL warm sun. It's neat.
 
Spork said:
They do occasionally get a bit of winter down in TX, ya know...but it's my understanding that everything pretty much shuts down when they do.
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Here in Dallas we get one or two brief episodes of "winter" each year, where it snows or ices for a couple of days... Austin is about the same despite being south of us, I've been stuck in some awful weather there.

And yes *everything* shuts down. Good news- you're not expected to leave your house. Bad news - if you actually want to leave your house, you're screwed, because snow shovels, snowplows, sand trucks, etc are not a thing here. You just wait for stuff to melt; it always does in a day or two.

The joke is that we have two seasons here, summer and not summer... the six months it's horribly hot, and the six months it's possible to go outside without sweating and complaining about the heat ;)

Spork, Colorado Springs sounds AMAZING :D
 
GirlFromTexlahoma said:
Here in Dallas we get one or two brief episodes of "winter" each year, where it snows or ices for a couple of days... Austin is about the same despite being south of us, I've been stuck in some awful weather there.

And yes *everything* shuts down. Good news- you're not expected to leave your house. Bad news - if you actually want to leave your house, you're screwed, because snow shovels, snowplows, sand trucks, etc are not a thing here. You just wait for stuff to melt; it always does in a day or two.

The joke is that we have two seasons here, summer and not summer... the six months it's horribly hot, and the six months it's possible to go outside without sweating and complaining about the heat ;)

Spork, Colorado Springs sounds AMAZING :D
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And on that note... I just saw a thing on Facebook that Denver was rated the #1 "Best" city to live in, and Colorado Springs was rated #5. This was out of some list of 100 cities in the United States.

Oh, and this is one of my favorite photographers...most of his work is taken right here in the Springs. Some of these places look remote, they aren't, they are right there either in the city or next to it. I like to share his photo pages on FB and tell my family that lives in other places, "Hey check this out. I live here!" :D

http://larsleber.net/

Honestly though, much as I can tout some of the cool places I've been fortunate enough to live, I have heard great things about Austin. It's a place I'd love to visit sometime and I don't blame anyone for looking at it as a possible new home.
 
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