Recent content by JacksonCage

"What freedoms are you wanting for yourself in this situation?" Oh boy... that's a lot to think about. I just have NO idea, but it's a direction. 20 years of doing everything for my wife and kids leads me to a life where I have never considered myself. I know you're right... just hard to know...

Thank you everyone for your time and thoughtful replies. You all certainly give me a lot to ponder...especially Gala Girl. I like the "one day a week" idea. I was shying away from it, as any past boundaries made with other lovers were always broken. So, I lack trust in boundaries, as the heart...

Hi. My wife has been wanting to date another person for years. Over the last few years, she has had some long distance experiences. Meaning, she met up with guys she met a few times a year who lived farther away. All that, I could deal with. I "get" poly people, and want her to have what she...

Jsone, I just wanted to express support, in that I have been in your exact shoes. It was a few years ago. All the advice you got was awesome. She needs to stop, you two need to build communication systems and get support. Once you have a foundation and have agreements, she can start to...

Ok, so I am in a similar situation. However, your "number 3" alone is enough to KNOW this will not work. Really? He doesn't let his wife and he wants to? Double standard/hypocrite. And the threesome thing? I read over and over here that poly works when there is exhaustive communication and...

Well, I see your point. I can do my best to make him feel respected, as everyone wants to feel respected. However, the reality is that I really could care less about a guy who is messing with my wife. I do appreciate the words, and I will try to create an illusion of respect. Good point.

Wow. This really helps me personally. I have a lot of respect for D for facing you. I need to do that same. I feel exactly like D does in relation to my wife's bf. I have no interest in even exchanging a text with the guy. However, if he could just "get" where I am coming from without my wife's...

THANK YOU! Since my post was not about the relationship side of it, I left out details and many jumped to assumptions. It's ok. It didn't bother me. Now, I got clearer as to the exact infections. We're talking HSV-1 and HPV (from genital warts, removed a few years back) We decided on NO oral...

Because she says she is. It's their intention for this meeting.

Well GalaGirl, It's something that's she's been wanting to try for years and years. She finally met someone she loves. I love her SO much I want her to have what she wants in life. No, I don't like it, but I also can't stifle my wife and her dreams. As you know, it's never simple, right...

HI! First of all, this is my first post. I've been reading this Forum for months now as therapy, to help me cope with my wife's choice to start a relationship with another man and be poly. As you can probably tell, I'm mono. This forum has helped me see her side of things more, and slowly...