Recent content by jacQues

Thank you. You are right. I am devastated and called in sick at work. I'm gonna take it very slow for a bit. Luckily, because of Corona that's easy. He always said he consented, but I regularly question his actions. Everyone thinks she should rethink her relationship with him, because he's a...

Thank you so much Magdlyn. Very very helpful! This is what we ended up doing - discussing what to 'relay' and what not. That worked for us. Another comment said she's playing games and another with more "end of relation" remarks than I'm comfortable with. Those kinda shocked me. She's not...

Does rarity matter? Say you find a construction that works for you and your partner(s). Then who cares if it is common, rare or even unique. Follow your heart rather than the flock. As you are on this forum, I assume you are doing just that. There is no book with answers (unless you go...

Thanks so much everyone for your messages! I appreciate it a lot, albeit a tad overwhelming (single parent and other 'stuff' going on as well). I learned new things and am happy to have broadened my perspective.

Because we tell each other everything (except TMI stuff). Also, she wouldn't hurt me and simply wasn't aware it would. For her, it was just and only his opinion, nothing more. So no games, just honesty.

Makes sense. Thank you!! Funny how those things work. Feels like when I first fell in love with someone other than my partner, whilst still being very much in love with her. Options are to ignore my new feelings, have a secret affair or 'switch' right? Yup, that's it! But since I tell my...

Definitely not the case. I wanted to avoid subjective reactions, based on the kind gesture of 'helping out' the topicstarter. As I look at the poll, this seems a case of... In any case, I'm guy 2 and when she told me about it I was gobsmacked about the remark my metamour made to her, as well...

TMI I get. But I never considered compersion not to be a requirement, to be honest. Sounds logical when you write it, I simply never gave it a thought and assumed (yes yes) that it is present in all poly people. In my own defense, I know only few.

I feel welcome; thanks! It actually is my real name. Yes, I did read the advice when signing up. Everyone around me knows I'm poly and it's never been a problem in any way. And being poly is not the most 'deviating' about me. :p You are correct. They are not mutually exclusive. In fact, both of...

I deliberately didn't state what side I'm on, as I want unbiased answers. I'll give it a few days and then provide more 'reading material'. ;)

First of all; I don't use Facebook and am so glad to find this forum. :) I see myself as a kitchen table poly person. So I don't have casual sex. Recently my reality was shook because I have the opposite view on something than my love interest (trying to avoid the word "girlfriend" lol). She's...