Recent content by jacs87

Castress, I'm happy and sad you can relate to that, haha. Happy I'm not alone, and sad because I know how tough it is. Anxiety doesn't make anything easier, either-- I know what a good job it can do of planting doubts and making you miserable. I feel so bad for my partners sometimes for having...

Castress, I can see what you mean about needing an open line of communication. That can be hard, though. I struggle with expressing what I'm feeling and why, because neither of my partners have been in my position before. They can't necessarily relate to my insecurities, because in their minds...

I understand where you're coming from-- I'm also more of a practical person than anything, and the inability to prepare for some of the situations you mentioned are a big stressor. All great stuff to consider, thank you.

GreenAcres, thank you for the thoughtful response! I'll definitely be looking at my local marriage laws to see what exactly those entail. I really haven't been able to pinpoint what exactly it is about marriage that is important to me-- the validation, the security, the connection, or something...

Nadya, we're somewhere between in and out of the closet, if that makes sense. Most of the people closest to us know, and we don't necessarily hide it in public, but as far as work and more distant friends and family go, it's a secret. I hadn't necessarily considered it, but maybe that is part of...

Dagferi, that's great to know that it's possible to feel that way! I'm glad you're able to experience it, and it's definitely something I want to work towards, myself.

Thank you both for the suggestions! I'll definitely be checking those out. kdt, oddly enough, I have a copy of that jealousy workbook you mentioned. When we first started our triad, we saw a therapist who recommended it. I haven't looked at it in awhile-- I really should pick it up again. I'd...

Hi! I'm new here, and to poly in general. I've always been monogamous, but six months ago I entered a relationship with a married couple. We live together, sleep in the same bed, and for the most part live an awesome life together. But I find that I have a hard time dealing with the fact that...