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    How to build attraction with people

    (Also - as an example of how we’re all different - I personally wouldn’t date someone who uses incorrect spelling/grammar! 😉)
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    How to build attraction with people

    As much as this post may be well intentioned, as a woman, I don’t appreciate being told what ‘all women’ want. Women aren’t a species - they’re individuals, just as men and all humans are. For example, I, as a female human, would be extremely annoyed if a relative stranger followed your...
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    Advice please - relationship counselling

    Thanks Bluebird! That's what we're going to do. :) On an unrelated note, I stumbled across your blog and I'm really enjoying it. :D Not just because it's well written, which it is, but also because your (gloriously geeky :p - I mean that as a huge compliment btw) MFM setup sounds similar in...
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    Advice please - relationship counselling

    Thank you Kevin, good advice. I agree with you. We're going to give this lady another try, but be prepared to look elsewhere if we're still concerned after our individual sessions. I'd definitely cancel if I thought our current therapist had said something out of line, but I think it's more a...
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    Advice please - relationship counselling

    Thanks lunabunny - stay tuned, I'll post again after our individual sessions (P's this week, mine next week). I'd be interested to know how you get on too. I have OCD, anxiety and on/off depression (all probably at their least influential currently as I recently finished a very helpful course...
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    Advice please - relationship counselling

    Thank you Tinwen. This is what I'm going to do. Will let everyone know how session number two goes! :)
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    Advice please - relationship counselling

    Thank you Galagirl. That's a good point about other types of doctor, somehow I hadn't thought of it like that. (Although, as per my reply above, being in the UK I am generally subject to the NHS and get whatever doctor I'm given! But this is different because, as you say, we are paying.) P...
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    Advice please - relationship counselling

    Thanks, Opalescent. That had been my thinking - that the issues we're seeking therapy for aren't really to do with our being poly, so why look for a therapist who 'does' (or 'is') poly? I'd assumed any therapist would be fairly open-minded about different relationship structures and would in any...
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    Advice please - relationship counselling

    Thank you for your reply, FallenAngelina! (On a side note, but worth mentioning at the start, I've never really posted on a forum before so this is my first attempt at quoting a post and replying to the person who posted it! Hope it goes OK, ho hum.) Noted re giving my partners nicknames. I can...
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    Advice please - relationship counselling

    Hi everyone. I'm still quite new to this forum and have only posted once before (in the 'introductions' section), although I've done a fair bit of lurking. :) I'd be very grateful for some advice from more experienced poly people on the following... P (31M, partner of 10 years) and I (30F)...
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    Hello :) This is me

    Hi everyone! :) I feel a bit of a fraud posting here as I don't really know if I'm poly (or even if it's a thing you are, rather than a thing you do?). I didn't realise there was a name for my situation until fairly recently, but I've been doing a lot of Googling and ended up here ... where...
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