Recent content by Jinglebells3675

Hey Cornwall couple, we are based in Somerset so not too far from you 😊

I think cheating is far more socially acceptable than poly. I wouldn’t want to waste the thought process, time or energy fantasizing about how to punish someone… unless it was in a sexual way. ;)

Well, we are open with our other relationships. We also have children who understand our dynamic. They are all very accepting and our teenagers have quite poly outlooks. Our 7 year old doesn’t discuss it with her friends as, “They wouldn’t understand and would think it was weird”-- her own...

I think that’s a really hard thing to define. We came from a swinging background and even amongst fellow swingers, it’s pretty frowned upon. I don’t think it’s particularly socially acceptable…but we often go out as a 4 and have never been challenged. What context are you thinking?

I told Pet I was considering this and he has taken it rather personally. He feels it shows a lack of commitment, whereas I would argue it’s the exact opposite. He is less than keen on the idea. It’s so hard meeting everyone’s needs and getting things right.

It does, in the sense of wanting to maintain stable relationships. It’s open and the children are aware of the set up. It’s pretty normal to them now. Thank you for putting a slightly different spin on it. I hadn’t really looked at it that way.

Yes, absolutely. However, it’s me that gets frustrated with the constant intrusion and I feel Jam is reluctant to address this. We have very few rules or boundaries, mainly because we did to start off with, and they were broken. The bedroom is a phone-free zone, but other than that, we can both...

Yes, there are children involved on both sides. The phone/texting bothers me. Jan is very chill about it all. I feel he edits his behaviour to ensure he can message. This frustrates me, as I feel it’s a constant distraction. For example, we went to dinner last night and he insisted he go to...

It isn’t always date nights. We get a couple mornings a week together where we generally do something. We went golfing last week. But I do feel that intimacy is lacking. No swinger-style arrangements. Even as swingers we were autonomous. We are both in charge of our own relationships. But there...

Thank you for your response. I think my husband doesn’t feel it would be helpful for him, as he's never has any issues and he would miss the contact. However, there is a willingness from him to improve our relationship. But he has this blind faith that we will come out in a good place in the...

Here's a little bit of background. I will try and keep it brief. We have a KTP quad set up. I, Jingle (F) and my husband Jam (M) have been together 12 years, swinging for 7 years, poly for 10 months. We are in a closed quad relationship with Pet (M) and Lucky (F) who have been married 25 years...

I was just about to ask the same. It can’t be disease-related if you are already inside of her. Could you elaborate, please? I can’t make sense of why you can’t have sex as normal.

Thank you for asking. I got some really great pointers that have helped massively. Things have definitely improved between my husband and me. We have talked a lot and made sure we are investing time in each other. We have mostly split the 4 at the weekends, so we do separate things with our...

if anyone has any tips on how to manage the constant messaging too, that would be really helpful. A&L start at 7am and it doesn’t stop until midnight. I don’t want to unnecessarily restrict him but I feel it is driving me a little insane. What boundaries do other people have. What are...

Thank you so much all for your replies. There have been some absolutely amazing responses. So we sat down and had a long chat about everything. There were many tears and a brutal level of honesty. We are looking at the scheduling, the point about not needing to be privy to the PDA between...