CielDuMatin, thank you. I can see there are many happy and successful poly relationships who post on here and that is so lovely when everyone is content.
It is sad and yes, they both lied and cheated. It appears that they now want to carry on in the bdsm community as if they have done nothing...
I sincerely thank everyone for their responses made from the first day i posted.
Some really good advice, challenging questions that made me re-evaluate my thinking....i can absolutely see that when polyamory is practiced in a fully open and honest way it can be a wonderful thing.
Kudos to you...
You may have a point there Dingedheart....though in my eyes that would make him neither manly nor Masterly/Dominant.
I can't change what has happened but i can learn from the experience and that is what i will do when i can get past all the hurt eating away inside me.
Dingedheart, problem solved in that we are no longer together. I found out he had been dishonest and had met with 'the other' a few times without telling me which broke the instruction. 'The other' thought it was quite ok to break the agreement too despite proclaiming to me that she would abide...
Lessons learnt
Master issued an instruction to us both in which He stated that their relationship will only be as play partners and friends for now.
I trusted this was how it would be, given that i faced such a huge challenge and complete change of mindset. I both felt and appreciated that i...
@CielDuMatin, please do express your thoughts freely. I am here both as a submissive but also as just a female trying to break through a stringent monogomous viewpoint . Any thoughts expressed will be given great thought i assure you.
Again, excellent and valid points being posted....thank you.
@CielDuMatin...D/s is my life now and is for me not roleplay...so yes, i do have to accept what He says though being a very fair Master, He does listen to my opinions as long as they are respectfully made. I am guilty of expressing my...
You make very fair points nycindie, my pain definitely clouded my thinking. All i could see was a predatory woman with no respect for me :(
The notification by email point has been discussed and cleared up now. Master does accept that a different approach could have been taken and has...
Some very wise words already in response and i thank you both for them.
Anneintherain, in answer to your question my honest answer is yes, i may have made an assumption about not talking to me first.
I know i have knee jerked in my reactions, my pain has blinded me and i have been unable to...
I'm new here so please bear with me and i apologise in advance if my post is in the wrong place or upsets anyone.
I would like to tell people as briefly as i can about my relationship history and what the situation is now. I come from a BDSM background which includes power exchange. My partner...