Recent content by karsa

So I ended the relationship today. We were talking again about the visa and I was again explaining why I am not completely comfortable with it all. It just became apparent that dh does not love me, at least not in a way that one would build a partnership on. I do think he has feelings for me but...

Thanks for the feedback everyone. Just to clarify, before we took on a metamour we did set up some ground rules one of which included that if for whatever reason the closed triad did not work, I would be able to take on a bf or gf of my own. Unfortunately a year into dh and metamours...

Hi there, So I posted a thread a while back looking for advice on my failing poly relationship. I am still with dh (we are not legally married but have been together for 16 years and have 2 children, a 4 yo and a new born) and his metamour is still living with us. She is from Germany and her...

Just wanted to say thanks to everone for the advice. I agree with what you are saying but unfortunately I have no control over this situation. It's been made pretty clear to me that it doesn't matter that I am saying the triad isn't working and I'm pretty sure if I offered an alternative it...

We've been together over 10 years and started out very monogamous. about 7 years ago DH had a semi GF that didn't last long or pan out the way we had hoped. It was a bit messy/awkward I think due to it being our first attempt at poly. He also had another GF about 4 years ago who I got along...

You are right. I think where I get stuck is where DH comes along my path. In the past week I the only time I have felt calm and the closest to happy has been when I have thought of not being in this relationship anymore. Then the reality kicks in that I can't just walk away because I am pregnant...

I just spoke with DH over phone to organise logiatics around our 4 year old. I also asked him what he wants to do next in regards to getting through this. I could hear that he is very angry which he says is because I have been so angry with him that he can't deal with it anymore. He said I just...

Yes they both know. My mum is very concerned for me at the moment but is the most accepting of the lifestyle choice. She would be fine with it if I was happy and things were going well. DHs mum is not at all ok with it.

I'm not sure it's really something I should be worried about, whether or not she tells her folks. I don't want to judge her before she has done/not done what she says she will. And if she doesn't tell them wouldn't that send a red flag to DH that she isn't really ok with this relationship that...

We have a 4 year old and I'm 6 months pregnant. I didnt mention children earlier because I dont want to drag them into what's going on but the reason I did mention it was because I cant just cut and run, if we hreak up we still have to be able to have a relationship of some description for kids...

I agree but I'm also being told that she does want a triad ultimately but that it is hard because she has never done anything like this. I know that I don't find it to be so hard and I have also never done anything like this and when I say this I'm told that I'm the one making it hard, and I...

It wasnt set up for a tit-for-tat although I do think that DH was naive and thought this would pretty much be the case. I excused a lot of bad behaviour as NRE but because he denied a lot of his behaviour it bacame a real issue. I also wanted to believe that there would eventually be a more or...

I have never heard of a cowgirl before but have to admit that I've often felt this way. When I have raised this doubt about feeling that not everyone is truely in this for a poly relationship I've been told that its just my own insecurity and that they both want this to work. DH has said that if...

Hi there I am in my first serious poly relationship and hoping some with more experience can give me some advice. My DH of over 10 years started a romantic relationship with a non poly woman who thought she could try poly after she fell I love with him. The idea was that we would have a closed...