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I've definitely encountered the if he loved me he'd know what I needed with out being told and when that happened it cause a major fight. Most of the time I can usually guess what it is my girlfriend wants because I know her so well, but on this occasion it was something she hadn't needed before...

Hi all I'm just after some advice. I've been with my girl for about 4 months and she has been with her husband for almost 9 years. We love each other and really enjoy our time together, but there are times when she clearly wants our relationship to be at the same level of routine, knowing each...

Welcome Hopeful I hope this forum gives you the advice and or support you need. To answer your question NRE is usually applied to a new relationship, not the current one. Its when you start a new relationship and the new partner kind of makes you feel like a teenager again, giddy, blissfully in...

Those are actually Yvonne's words, not mine. I've never mentioned this to Karl, or been anything but nice to him. But that doesn't mean that she hasn't mentioned it to him before and I'm just not aware of it. She prefers to keep the two relationships separate when it come to deep personal-type...

I don't mean to imply that Karl is a bad guy. Not at all. But it seems to me like he is free to do whatever he wants, while the woman I love (his wife) has to ask his permission. I think this stems from two things. 1) He is insecure about Yvonne seeing someone who fulfills her in a way he can't...

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make anyone feel out of place, but sighing at me and telling me I need to grow up doesn't help. Again, I get you're an old hand at this, but you haven't offered any help, just criticism. Please, if you can't say something to help, Redpepper, please leave this post alone.

No, you didn't say anything about that, Redpepper. Again, I resent the fact that you have a superior attitude about this. So far you have not offered constructive help, just attacked the way I am living my life, and I am sick of it. I joined this group to get advice, not to hear people sigh at...

Hi Tia, I'm actually in Australia. As we are new to this we don't spend all that much time together in fact I've only spoken to hubby over the phone. In time we may move in together but for now he has to get used to me being around. where are you? have you had the same situation ?

That's actually a good idea, one I hadn't thought of before. Like I said, I like Karl, from what I know. He's a good guy with a good heart. I don't want to hurt what they have. But he knows I love his wife. He's okay with it. Maybe he just needs some time to get to know me. Thank you for your...

to me it seems as though things are unbalanced with you relationship, she has another but you don't is that real poly or are you just excepting of the face that she sees other men? If you really are into poly, why don't you try to approach female you know that you like and start your own...

Thank you all so much for your advice and counsel. It is very reassuring to know that there are people who have been through just what I have. We have been away on a trip away. (It was one of the best trips of my life.) Even though Karl was fine with us going, he didn't want to know about...

Thank you, GS. That is just the sort of advice I was looking for. I am new to this. I knew that there would be bumps and hang-ups along the way. I was just wondering how other people managed it. As I said, I love her and I want her to be happy, and I realise that her husband and her life outside...

Hi all, I am the third person in an open relationship, meaning that the woman I am involved with, Yvonne, is married. We were involved as teenagers and then grew apart and had different relationships. She got married and has been with her husband Karl for 8 years (4 of those married.) They have...

actually I agree there I should have said guidelines that can be changed and adapted depending on the situation. Don't rush things and take them step by step

how about, "I'm trying to get my hubby's hands out of my pants while I talk to you " now that was weird to hear !