Recent content by kvb

Hi everyone, thank you again to everyone who took time to read and reply. You all are an invaluable resource for me right now. I took the rest of yesterday off from the internet. Everything you all are sharing with me, your insights, views and advice is priceless but A LOT to process. I feel...

GalaGirl - Yeah, I guess he did tell me he has never been in love with me. Though he was certain he was for years. I really don't know what to think of all of that honestly. He isn't always in and out of the house, but he definitely has more "options" and freedom than I seem to, probably...

powerpuffgrl1969- Thanks for your reply. His defense was that since that was the agreement we made years ago, it wasn't "cheating" and that he hadn't done anything wrong. This is mess, no about about it. It's going to take time for me to find my way, and I am super grateful to have all of you...

lunabunny - Thank you for your honest reply/perspective and for taking the time to read my posts. I really appreciate it. Everything you are saying unfortunately, makes sense. I am hurting not only because like you said someone else is getting what I used to, but also because I am working my...

GalaGirl - Again your insights and perspectives are priceless and so appreciated. You're right, I have to figure out if I want to try to work this out, or cut my losses and move on. First and foremost, I need to find a good therapist. I think maybe my talking to someone alone would help me...

vinsanity0- Thank you for your reply. Maybe it doesn't make sense to you, but knowing he was spending romantic time with someone else for a few days while I was here taking care of things, is difficult emotionally for me. Logical? No. But emotions are rarely logical. The best I know to do is...

First let me thank everyone for taking the time to reply and offer insight/opinions etc. I so appreciate all of you. DripDropDiggsManuel - I hear you and yeah part of me would have loved to just hide away all night...but I didn't. He went to bed anyway. This morning has been okay-ish. We had...

Hi everyone - So my partner just came home from a long weekend with is OSO and thing are NOT going well. I was hoping to gain some advice/perspective if possible. Tonight when he returned I was in my room and our 10 year old was in the living room. I heard him come in but didn't run out to...

Thanks again lunabunny, in response to your question about being "in love" with me, I don't know that is actually what is going on. From what he has told me, it really sounds like he is questioning what love is to him and for that reason, he is hesitant to say he is "in love" with anyone. The...

Hi AJJinMI- I am new here too and I felt so much of my own situation (even though yours is very different) in your post. I don't know if anything I say will be useful but at the very least I hope it helps to know there is someone else out there who can very much relate to what you are going...

Rockit49- I DO get what you're saying. Thank you. I can get in touch with either/both of them directly. I definitely need to think about what I want to ask/what I want to say, what I hope to gain from it and what I hope THEY gain from it before I do anything. Thanks. BTW - love your outlook...

Rockit49 - Thank you so much. You are absolutely right, I guess I was just trying to be respectful, mindful of boundaries and comfort levels if that makes any sense? I know I don't need his permission to do anything, I guess since all of this is uncharted waters for me, I was/am erring on the...

Rockit49 - No I've actually met him once. He seems like a nice enough guy. I guess I am hesitant to reach out to him for a few reasons. One is that I have no idea if his opinion of me is colored as well because my partner only seems to reveal negative information. Also, I don't know how my...

lunabunny- First of all thank you for taking so much time to reply. Second, WOW. You hit the nail precisely on the head. That IS exactly what it is. I never thought of it that way. I am a logical enough thinker to get why polyamory makes sense. There are past partners in my life that I would...

I'm wondering if anyone has tips/advice on handling their partner being away? (I have posted most of my backstory in a separate thread here.) Mine left yesterday for a weekend with his other partner and whenever he goes away I struggle to occupy my brain and my emotional highs/lows. It's...