Recent content by KWJMono

Yeah, she decided to pause all external activities until we both see the poly therapist, and I’m committing time to study PolySecure by Jessica Fern. We’ve started listening to it together, which has been helpful. I find myself needing to constantly repeat certain chapters so I can pause my own...

I'm so sorry to hear. I appreciate the post. We, well, she is looking into a Poly-therapist. I think it will be more of her giving up something and it won't be good for her to try and give up who she is if poly is really what she wants. It would be like my mom forcing me into a hetero...

The community is making some really good points, but I’m sitting with a lot of anger right now, and I can’t seem to let go of what I see as betrayal. The reality is, I am monogamous, and she is poly. We’re just different. I thought opening the marriage to couples would help bridge that gap, and...

It has been 2.5 weeks since I found out about the ex. She told me on a MDMA trip.. which we like to do so we can talk and I can be calm. But 3 days later, I was livid. Extremely angry. Like out of all the experiences, all the men.. the moment I say go be u.. do u.. you choose your ex.. the...

David is a childhood love of my wife’s, and they’ve stayed in touch over the years—even attending our wedding. To me, this was always a friendship, purely platonic. He was married for about 18 years and recently divorced. They dated briefly as children before his marriage, which turned out to be...

This post was back in 2020, and in 2022 my wife came out to me as poly after an emotional affair. This is all new to me the world. I took the time to read this post. There are advice from the moderator that does resonate with me. Clearly, I am not male, but I am solitude.. hold a lot of feelings...

Hi, I’m a monogamish queer woman married to my newly-defined poly wife of 16 years, and we’re navigating this journey together. We’ve hit some hiccups defining boundaries but are working toward a consensus. I joined to learn more and better understand her because I’m crazy about her. My profile...

The first two years were all conversations, no action except for the emotional affair and the process of forgiveness. By 2024, we activated DADT for a whole year. I agreed because I needed to focus on building the company, not on poly, and honestly, it felt like an escape for me, due to my...

DADT - she said we never said not to sleep with exes. I feel like I have to be super detailed like working with contractors. ex: 6 floating shelves. They paint 4 shelves black, I assume they will paint all 6 floating shelves, because I said paint the floating shelves black. I have to be clear...

I’m trying to understand her and stay open-minded. Coming from the LGBTQ community, I know relationships can take many forms, and I’ve been working hard to see her perspective. I agreed to couples’ therapy because I want to understand her better, but when I take it out of the poly versus mono...

I look forward to your thoughts in the post thread of Poly Relationship Corner.

I need advice on something that’s left me feeling deeply hurt, angry, and stuck. To keep things anonymous, I’m using alias names: I’m Kiara, my wife is Ali, and this involves two people, Mark and her ex, who I’ll refer to as “David-X.” Ali and I have been together for 16 years, and for most of...

Hi everyone, My name is Kiara (using an alias), and I’m a monogamous partner navigating life with my polyamorous wife, Ali (also an alias). We’ve been together for 16 years and, until a few years ago, were incredibly happy. I still love her deeply, but the past three years have been a...