Recent content by laerhk

I second bacterial vaginosis. It's all about the flora balance, which is why it mimics UTI/yeast infections so well. You don't get rid of the bacteria, because it is necessary and supposed to be there, but you do have to get it back into balance so it is not out of control and causing issues...

Best wishes and let us know how it goes!

Word. I totally would be pissed too, even if I still managed to have fun of my own.

I don't understand the hesitation to tell your gf (?) how you feel toward her. The problem with her husband is that he is fearful of the sexual side of your relationship, right? Perhaps by sharing your deepening feelings and introducing more non-sexual acts of love and respect to her, your...

I have known a man who spoke similarly with objectifying terminology and single-minded goals/fantasies. Over time he came to realize what he was asking for wasn't possible without some accommodation for the feelings of all involved. I personally think it was because he was so wrapped up in...

:( What a steaming pile of crap, OP. Remind me to never FB an SO and/or a metamour! *Hugs* I think I would have addressed it the same way...a friend is being less than friendly, i apologize for online drama; as far as damage control, completely block her but not "explain" unless directly...

Hear, hear! Some of the best advice I have personally seen here...deal8ng with the situatiin and encouraging communicatin rather than trying to reign in the behavior of others, which can breed resentment and fear, IMO.

I don't have any advice, but I wanted to follow this conversation because my husband has the same issue with me finding/being with men vs women as you seem to and I'm interested in hearing the comments and advice you get in that regard. It would be nice if it were easier, would it not?

I'm glad for you both that she told you, even after the fact. Having such a quivk engagement may have led to the delay. And then the stress of wedding planning...well, i can see where she thought it was best to wait. I think your reaction to her being bi allowed her to continue her disclosure...

I don't think running would be fast enough. This has been going on for a year. A YEAR. And it sounds like nothing has changed except artificial deadlines that really are only delaying the inevitable. :(

If you already had the convo about what you need (more time when opportunities arise/to hear from her via text a few times daily), and things haven't changed, I would ask why. Is there something she needs from you? Is your request too much for her? Does your request need to be more specific...

I had to respond because of the pregnancy/new baby issue brought up. I was pregnant when I finally realized I was bi. I also became pregnant just after telling my husband I needed poly in my life. Timing sucks, that's for sure. I'm not saying "dad" should ignore OP and 5 month old kid to...

It sounds like you are considering the "reasonableness" of your relationships and "the point" of making effort that is being asked of you versus the possible outcomes of that effort. It also sounds like you know what you want but just haven't told your wife that/made any ultimatums of your own...

You want to know E better. If you had time (and you know you will in Feb) you would want to get to know G better too. You enjoy her texts and don't want to lead her on. So why not just spend more effort on E and tell G exactly what you are feeling about her (like the texts. Wish you had more...

Been there, done this for 2 decades and finally ended the cycle myself this year. Here are my 3 cents: 1. Block her on FB. You don't need to torture yourself by stalking her, PMing her, etc. 2. Relationships die. They just do. People change, circumstances change, it doesn't have to be a...