Recent content by LilithHp

I am sorry you’re going through this. You seem like a reasonable person who is able and willing to acknowledge and work on your own flaws as well as recognize other people’s. That being said, it’s hard to diagnose a whole relationship based on a few paragraphs. The thing that stuck out to me...

It’s her job to manage her expectations but I don’t see why he would continue to engage her if he’s made his boundaries and desires clear and she doesn’t seem to be getting it. Even if that’s true, that’s only opening himself and eventually probably you (with the watching your social media etc)...

Totally agreed. This situation is actually a perfect reminder of why I will never get married. I won't get on my full soapbox here but I will say the limits it imposes is very intentional and has had disastrous implications for people's autonomy, the brunt of which women have had to bear...

Well yes of course, hence the stuff about it needing be addressed that they apparently have conflicting wants on this. Given that her husband isn't actually opposed her to having another child, just having a child that isn't his, I'm going to guess that he's not so worried about "being on the...

Even with all the precautions in the world, pregnancy is always a risk when having sex. If your husband is not ok with the possibility of you being pregnant by somebody else there really isn't a way to eliminate that. That being said, I personally believe that your autonomy and desire to get...

we'll never live together-- i just meant bring them together as in this being established enough to where we can spend time around each others children, maybe vacation together, etc. as it is right now, he comes to visit me on my daughter's weekends at her dads or i go to visit him and we stay...

we do get along well enough and the idea is hopefully to bring our families together at some point, so that's why i haven't wanted to stop it altogether. she and i have hung out alone a few times so i think ill probably just hang around them separately until they fix their connection and...

lmao this is going to be my takeaway for this situation i think. hearing somebody else say its ok to just let him think what he wants helps. this is my first time dealing with a metamour and i just didnt know if i was overlooking something.

yeah. he's said that we connect emotionally much more than they do, and it just so happens that the foundation of all their most pressing issue(s) is a lack of emotional connection. they've both said this to me and its why i feel particularly bad about the contrast when we are all together.

hi all. after almost a year of back & forth between me, my bf, and his fiancee (she was vehemently against a polyamorous situation but also didnt want to leave him), things seemed to have smoothed out, at least enough for he & i to have the relationship i want. she & i actually have a (platonic)...

First I'll start by saying I know its unrealistic to have an exact date or timeline for these things as every situation is unique. I won't give the whole long backstory on my situation, but to summarize I am the long-distance girlfriend to somebody who is in a barely-functioning (unrelated to my...