Recent content by LovelyLady

I can understand your reaction. If you are truly in a poly relationship, why would they feel the need to pretend it was something other than what it was? It might make you feel like they were hiding something other than the sex on the couch. However, chances are it's probably nothing more...

Book bug - I think he does, to some degree, because he said he doesn't fully trust her now either. However, he has said he doesn't understand why I'm so upset about it, since it's been "taken care of". As far as the birth control goes, his attitude is that accidents happen. Mine is that she...

Enjoy your day with Chops tomorrow. Sounds like you could use the time! Can't wait to hear how the sister weekend turns out. I'm sure it'll be memorable.

I've been struggling with how to reply to some of the responses. It's been a tough 48 hours. I've been hoping clarity would come with time, but honestly I've been more obsessed with trying to figure out when and where it happened. I know it's silly and really doesn't matter, but I am...

I'm very sorry you are having to go through this. It's good that your parents are there for the kids but I do hope you find ways to take care of yourself too. It will be a tough road ahead I imagine, but it seems like you're taking all of the right steps. I wish you the best!

It Happened - Cowgirl Got Pregnant This morning I found out that my worst fear came true, my metamour got pregnant. For the last month and a half, things between she and my hubby had really cooled down. He had shared with me that he felt she was not ready for a relationship like this and he...

Hi Minxx! I am mono also, so I can relate to a bit of what you are going through. My suggestion is that you seriously consider whether or not this guy is worth the inevitable heartache and breakdown of ingrained mono boundaries that make you feel comfortable in relationships. I've been through...

To be honest, I have definitely contemplated making similar type threats as Karen has made. While certainly I want my hubby to be happy and therefore, I try to accept his poly lifestyle, it would be so much easier for me if he did not have another woman in his life. I have wondered whether or...

I feel the same way Sparky. I have no desire to date other people, because I'd rather spend my time with my hubby. We have on occasion shared his girlfriends, which I do for him/with him. For the most part, he tries to see his gf when I am not available or am sleeping. However, on the...

Perhaps she wants to feel the kids out before she reveals all of the details for fear of overwhelming them? Maybe she feels that dating a married man would be easier for them to accept than dating another woman and her husband and she plans to ease them into the fold? Or maybe it's as you...

Yes, this is true. I think Magdlyn is referring to the fact that in prior posts I have shared that the two of them do not use condoms and the only source of assurance against pregnancy is through her taking the pill. In addition, I have shared that my one and only boundary is that I could not...

My hubby has shared with me that she tells him she wants him all to herself and I have witnessed actions on her pay that support this. She is a cowgirl.

It is this particular person and the type of relationship they share. He had a prior relationship of 8 years where I had the occasional bout of jealousy but I liked and trusted her. In addition she was married so did not demand a lot of time (2 times a month) or have a lot of expectations. The...

I can't seem to find a way to find peace and happiness with my hubby's current other relationship. I feel like I've tried so many different approaches, taken the advice of many of you here, hell I even went to a therapist for the first time in my life, but I'm exhausted from trying so hard and...

I researched poly friendly counselors from the links provided here by gracious members and worked up the courage to schedule an appointment. I have never been to any type of therapy, let alone to discuss such a controversial and personal subject as my endeavors as a monogamous partner in a...