Recent content by malsjoh

Thank you. I think I will start there.

I should clarify. I am in the position of either I have to just learn to deal with it or I can just go and start over again. I don't know what to do with it because really I feel that I have no options to do anything. Especially since my wife just lost her job 2 days before I got out of...

I have come to accept the fact that my wife and her girlfriend are not going to split anytime soon, I keep hoping that they will. I keep hoping that her GF will see that it is not what I really want and do the right thing and split but I know she won't. So now after getting my head straight on...

Galagirl I wish I could disagree with you but it is the truth. I am overly selfess more often than not. I'd give a stranger the shirt off my back. I don't like change at least not quick and drastic change. I know I need to learn to love myself but I don't know how, I have struggled with that...

I guess I am my own enemy here.

If you asked her she would say that I am being nit picky about the whole thing. I am sorry I get upset when simple things I have asked for like communication and some minor things also are being forgotten or still need more time to make changes. I guess 2 months now for almost everything...

malsjoh, For here-&-now, let's consider some of your word-choices. What is it about your SO's vee that you feel YOU are doing "to make it all work"? Do you feel that she's not doing a proper share of the heavy lifting? To make it all work I am having to be part of something I am not okay...

Savant thanks for the encouragement, although I feel like hell. I am going to try to talk with my wife tonight and see where she is at. Hoping for a good outcome.

I have thought that. I was possibly going to suggest it tonight. But the mood is not right at all. I also think my wife broke it off so now it will be my fault, I can already hear the lets figure it out from her but really I will get a kick in the pants for opening my mouth.

Well I just made worse. I was trying to be OK but GF was more important than family dinner, GF was supposed to clear out before dinner not 20 minutes after it was done. More agreements out the window again tonight. I am so done with that. So very done. Rant over. I have to get my stuff...

It has been discussed as I said. The result was accusations that I didn't want her to explore her bi side, trying to make me decide on whether or not she stayed with GF(which would not be good based on how the conversation went), anger at my reaction to the situation, and a bunch of other...

To prevent the current situation. I was naive.

Thanks for the responses. They were pretty much in line with my thinking already that is not a good idea. At least not at this point in time anyway. That was what I came to when I question myself as to why I would want a girlfriend. Was all selfish reasons for the most part.

It has helped. I want friendship with this person otherwise I feel I may grow to resent her the longer her and my wife stay together. The way things are going it seems that the relationship will continue to grow. It is really the best option for me I believe. She is actually pretty cool and we...

Thanks for the answers. As to the question of would I want her to have a boyfriend the answer is no I wouldn't want her to have a boyfriend any more than she has a girlfriend. I don't mind the girlfriend aspect I do mind the sharing of my wife's love and split attention. That is what has me...