Recent content by Manno

Thanks for the tip SeventhCrow Seriously, I want to thank you. I went onto OKC a few minutes after you suggested it, and not long after I posted my profile, I found myself in a wonderful conversation with a married, new to polyamory woman in my area. Both of us are dealing with some of the...

very true YGirl I was alluding to a specific creep factor: the whole problem of being a non-creepy "married guy looking to meet someone" which is generally interpreted as the "married guy looking to cheat on his wife" creep. :P -M

The issue of creepiness Actually, one of the hardest things about the whole reunion with dating is the whole issue of making sure I *don't* come off as a creep.

Jumping down my throat... no I was wondering if I sounded kinda creepy, but I hope I clarified that. This isn't something that can have easy answers, especially when you factor in all the parties involved. I just feel like I'd be having a better time if this was something we were exploring...

a few clarifications I had a hard time starting this post, and I had a feeling it wasn't going to come off as well as I had expected. "Filling the void" isn't necessarily accurate for us. When Alice is out, I'm at home with our child, and vice versa. Were childcare not an issue, I don't think...

I think I've always known I just didn't know it was okay-- the aftermath of a Southern upbringing. When I started looking back on my unsuccessful career as a monogamist, one relationship really started to stack up for me-- my first. It was high school, and we were both really busy people. We...

It has been a crazy road for the past few weeks. I stopped posting, but here I am again. I'm the married man in a recently-formed V-relationship with my wife Alice, and her lover Jim, who is a friend of mine. While I was toppled with a lot of exterior professional pressures for the past three...

Great name. This Guybrarian approves.

No worries I wasn't trying to downplay it as a viable solution, nor was I insinuating that it was a problem that needed to be solved for you. I'm in no way an expert on this situation.

Mac: I'm really understanding your situation as it was really the only thing I was worried about after we decided to romantically pursue other people. I'm in Eugene, and I'm finding a lot of people around me are very keen on what is going on in my wife and I's relationship as we are kind of...

What a great thought As someone who worked in divorce law (divorce scares the hell outta me because of what I saw), I really wish that I'd learned that quote while I was working in the field.

Sorry this has been rough I will say though, my wife and I have alluded to all of this for years. We had a "some flirting" model that was a great placeholder. But we never wanted to make things too complicated for either of us. Plus the place where we lived would not have been conducive to this...

RP: I have to say that this is my planned approach too. I don't want to waste a lot of time skirting the issue and it is an intense issue, but I hope that my personality and my body language are able to deliver that issue well. Furthermore, I'd hate to ask someone out and then after they say...

A tangled web I weave Update only 30 minutes after my last post! This is some weird serendipity: I'm watching something and I get a text at 3 a.m. Its from Celine, the girl I can't get out of my head, asking, "What are you doing up at 3 in the morning?" and so, instead of trying to text her...

Update A few things are on my mind. Alice and I were, first-and-foremost, friends for several years before we dated. We talked about the most intricate of things about our relationships with other people. Now, I find myself extremely interested in the success of her emotional tie in her other...