Recent content by Matilda

I've slept, and sleeping is good. Yesterday we made progress...strange progress, scary progress, but definate progress. Lots of talking and heartspilling and reflection led to us agreement to separate. We're sorting out counselling for both of us, and although we're in the same house, we're...

I am so, so, sooooooo exhausted tired. I wasn't 'allowed' to sleep last night, because every time I drifted off, my husband woke me again to demand decisions I can't give him yet. Last night he seemed to be in a rational place, and we were talking in what I felt was a very positive and...

The Scarlet Tide : Alison Krauss http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ccxiNUOdME

Thank you for sharing your story with me RS. I read it all, I promise I did, and I hear what you're saying. If it's okay with you, I'll take the following, cut and paste, and bring them about with me in my mind for the next little while: "I thought I would never be happy again, that I didn't...

*giggles* Oh, that is just so wrong!!! :)

You get hugged for that YGirl. You just made me laugh out loud - and I needed to laugh out loud. :D I'm hereby embracing the notion that I could be an insufferable cream-puff! :p

Purely for clarification purposes: imo, this relationship (myself and "monounsaturated") is quite messed up enough without bringing anyone else into it. As I've said before, if it was purely up to me, from day one it would have been a one-guy-one-gal wholly exclusive monogamous relationship...

One step forward, two steps back. Today started well, we had discussed what we thought would be good for both of us today, dropped the older children to school, and then went to the swimming pool with our smallest child together. We took turns with the little one, so we both got some time just...

I'm overwhelmed by the support. Thank you all so much. Sometimes I'll read a post and say to myself "oh nononononoooo, that's not it at all, that couldn't be me" - and I'll go away and mull over it as I sort out the laundry and I'll take what applies to this situation, and I'll re-assess my...

Thank you, Derby. I've read your post over a few times, and I hear what you're saying and appreciate where you're coming from.

Well it didn't happen overnight, so it can't be remedied overnight. I astonish myself now by how pragmatic I sound, and then I remind myself that I used to lead a debating team back in school. I've lost so very much of me, and I don't like what I've become - even if it was what I believed...

Peppermint's article reflects the honest original expectations in my marriage. Going into the relationship, that was what I was promised. That reads as ridiculous, I look back on it now and I laugh at myself for the naivity, but as a teenager I believed every bit of it, and I've always kept 'my'...

*nods* Yes, you've hit the nail on the head there, Catbird. The problem originated, I think, when we got married. In the beginning of our relationship, I was a very full, complete, happy person - I was popular, hectic social life, close family network, hobbies and groups I was part of, lots of...

I think there's a lot of mininformation about what polyamory actually is or means (says the woman who has been on the site a whole three days). I believe it can serve as a 'convenient' word to use instead of saying 'married-but-looking' or 'married-but-want-to-bed-other-people.' Whereas those...

Katy Perry : I'm still breathing :rolleyes: