Recent content by Mcphooey

Thank you!

Yes. I'm hypersexual and have lots of toys and play time with myself at least once a day. I watch porn, I read smut and romance, I do other things. I keep myself quite satisfied. Sex is on my mind 24/7. It is just my nature. My hope is that with therapy we will be able to have these...

Yes, Galagirl! This! I need all the resources and advice. And of course, I'll respect his answer. Either way, I love him and will give up anything to be with him. Our communication has improved overall since I started therapy. But we had a talk about how I feel like the work was one-sided and...

I haven't gotten past the "can we talk about it?" stage. He's not saying no to poly. He's literally saying no to talking about it. I think it's just been too big of an idea for him to even fathom. But with him doing therapy and starting to communicate better, I thought we might be able to...

THERE IS NO PRESSURE. All I want is a conversation and ideas on how to approach this. Have you never had to talk to someone about being poly that had no clue what it meant? Or had preconceived ideas about it? Or has taken 15 years to get to the point where he might be receptive to conversations...

Can't help who you fall in love with. He was a virgin when we met. And yes, we both knew this was an issue before being married and chose to marry anyway. I'm not trying to force anything on him. I don't think anyone owes me anything, except maybe a little respect. That being said, if...

That's the plan. But like I told some other people, I haven't even brought it up in years. He's so hard to talk to about anything sexual. I was looking for ways to broach the subject more subtly, not just go, "Hey, I want other people to join us," ya know?

I'm not trying to change him. I'm fine with being in a mono relationship with him. But I would like more. I literally haven't even mentioned poly to him in years. But also, don't think I'm just suddenly wanting to be poly. He knew when we started dating that I was bi and poly. I don't think...

Thanks, Birdie. He is currently in therapy, which was a huge step for him. I've done years and have no issues communicating anymore. I did before therapy. He is a bottle it up kind of guy and has a lot of things to uncork and work through. I gave him the option of couple's or individual...

Yes, his past trauma is why he shuts down, and we both have issues related to the church. (Is kind of wild that you picked up on that.) I've been in therapy for years and he's just started. The thing is, he knows it's not normal, and that it's an issue. He wants to be different and has truly...

Thanks Kevin. It's really not a divorce and be happy situation. He's everything to me. We did do some playing around when we were dating, mostly at parties, and mostly me, but he was okay. From all accounts, he even enjoyed himself. He's a very logical person. His brain is basically a...

We are seeking counseling. I've done many years of therapy for myself and he finally agreed to therapy recently that seems to be helping. He decided to do individual instead of couples because he wants to work on himself first. Keep in mind we have come a looooong way. Our sex life has been...

For all intents and purposes, we have a happy healthy relationship. He works and I'm a stay-at-home mom. He is aware of my sexual orientation and my large number of kinks, desires and preferences, etc. That just isn't his thing. He rarely even thinks of sex. There is no way we would ever...

Hi! I'm from mobile, AL. What part are you from?

I'm new to the site and I'm honestly just seeking advice. I'm a married woman and I'm bi. I've always wanted a poly relationship. But I'm from a small town and I didn't even know it was a thing until college, and I've since married and had a child. My husband is a vanilla as they come...