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    feel like there might be an answer I'm too inexperienced to see

    I don't see anything in your example that tells me this is your fault, but I suspect there is a lot more going on. A few items: - She just graduated and is having trouble looking for a job. She could be depressed, maybe very depressed. This is reinforced, to me, by being asleep at 1700. Is...
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    Completely New To This and Need Some Advice

    I think most of my points have already been brought up, but I just wanted to second (or third, or fourth) the call for discussion. Despite her deadline, it sounds like she is still confused over just what she wants. She wants to have you and this new guy, but cries at the thought of you...
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    I feel... calm? Is that right?

    You feel how you feel. When Gray has gone off to visit, I worry over her travelling alone, but I have known the people she was visiting quite well myself, and trusted her judgement of them, so I never really worried about her safety with them or what she was doing with them. It sounds like you...
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    Favourite animes thread

    Evangelion is probably my favorite of all time, though Bubblegum Crisis is a close second. BC 2040 is great, but I have a soft spot for the original Bubblegum Crisis (and Bubblegum Crash, and AD Police Files...) The art in the original is a little softer, both colors and line work. Some of my...
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    A question for the mono men

    Hello, I'm Gray's mono husband. Our relationship has only recently become "actually poly", though rather open since we were dating. (details available in our intro threads) Some have mentioned old, chauvinistic concepts of possession and not wanting to share "your" woman with anyone else. I...
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    Thoughts on poly/mono relationships

    Sorry, I didn't actually answer the core question you had. :o BTW, I'm the "Mono" TGIB was referring to, so I was hoping to come at your question from the other side of the relationship. :) I think there is a difference between being considerate of other relationships and supporting other...
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    Thoughts on poly/mono relationships

    Basically, it sounds like you don't have doubts about the relationship of your GF and her BF, but do have doubts about the BF's feelings over your relationship with the GF. Is that close? How is your relationship with the BF? Are you merely cordial, or do you chat with him about common...
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    Bi Assumptions

    When Gray and I were dating, early on when dalliances with others first started to be discussed, she asked if I would be more insecure with her being physically intimate with guy or a girl. She seemed rather surprised when I said, after a moment's thought, that I would feel better with her...
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    Help Needed...

    Hello, and welcome to the forum. I'm new here myself, but I'll try to help answer your questions. First, everything I talk about here is from my own experience. I've looked over the forum, and talked with some swinging/open/poly friends, but I haven't really "done research." I'm a mono...
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    Unfair family judgement.

    I am very private, too, and haven't had anything like this with my family, but something much less drastic happened with Gray's family. Some years ago now, she left for a long weekend to visit a friend in another state. A male friend. Meanwhile, Gray's sibling was visiting my in-laws, who...
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    Seem to Have Done OK So Far...

    Hello all, this is ThatGirlInGray's husband. I'm the hetero, mono arm of the "V" she talks about in her intro. She covered a lot of ground concerning our relationship, so I'll just cover a few things from my side and personal bits. I've known about polyamory for quite a while, and was rather...
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    Why do you use the online name that you use?

    Well, I would like to think that I'm more than meets the eye...
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    Why do you use the online name that you use?

    I'm Gray's husband, and I went with monochrome for three reasons. First, like Gray said, I want a different handle from what I usually use. Second, I'm monogamous, thus the "mono" part. And third, I thought monochrome was a good way to riff on ThatGirlInGray and ThatGuyInBlack's monochromatic...
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