Recent content by mushaboom

Just a quick two cents as you have already gotten lots of great advice. I don't agree that if you initially have a hard time imagining him with other women you probably aren't polyamorous. There are a lot of reasons why you might feel this way. When I started thinking about adopting polyamory...

What to do with the fear? (envy) Ah!... with the holidays I have been so busy and there has been no time to continue with my tale. I have read so much on here that poly only works when your existing relationships are healthy...and that totally makes sense. What I didn't expect from trying poly...

Hi! LOL, I was all ready to write about how I really feel for you and relate to your situation and that I have a lot of similar feelings and issues with discovering who I really am... and then I read that last post and I just started cracking up instead! :)

Hi RP. I'm a bit new... I wanted to thank you for sharing your story and posting such thoughtful messages. I really appreciate your commitment to the forum and to your own personal journey. Its honestly inspiring. I also especially loved the TED conference(s) that you shared on Invulnerability...

More back story... I have so much I want to write about and I am having a hard time figuring out how to divide it up into semi-comprehensible blocks. I want to write about my own relationship and understanding of poly. I want to write about my relationship with my partner, A, and how we came to...

It's the same for us girls! I was OKC for months trying to meet friends after moving to a new area and even as a woman I had the same problem with women not responding to my messages very often and never was I ever approached by a woman. Darn gender conditioning! ;)

I've been on here a few weeks and I've found myself starting posts and then not finishing them because I'm not necessarily looking for direct advice (although I welcome it) but more just support, community and a place to feel safe exploring my own feelings. Hence this here blog. :) I started...

Awh, I hope you don't think I'm being defensive. I'm just thinking out loud. :)

Neon - I totally understand where you are coming from and in a lot of ways I think triads can be much more complicated to navigate than individual polyamorous relationships. So to that end, I don't subscribe to the idea that triads are a "preferred configuration" for couples new to opening their...

Hi again, Iktomi! Its really nice reading about a triad relationship in a similar stage to mine... I feel like I might be kind of similar to your husband, in that my connection is lagging behind my partner's. Its mostly circumstantial, in that he's known her for 4 months longer than I have...

Aww. Thank you for your message Danny. I've been feeling a little like triads are the "red-headed step-children" of polyamory lately lol. It is really nice to hear from someone who is super positive and encouraging. :) We are taking it really slow which is helpful for me...its making it easier...

I totally agree with Raven. It is great for source for relationship advice. Lots of good info about communication and I also felt it really helped me to understand more about myself and what I want in my relationship/s in general. For me (to answer your "Why be with anyone else?" question)...

Have you read The Ethical Slut? It covers polyamory, open relationships, swinging and more. I think it is a great jumping off point.

Nice to meet you! Haha. You crack me up...only because I totally re-read my intro and wanted to rephrase things but then I saw I should enter a reason for the edit and the only thing I could honestly put was that I'm a teensy bit crazy. ;) It sounds like your road to poly was really similar to...

It's amazing! So hard to describe, but I guess I don't have to here. :) I don't think I have ever felt more free and open before. I love it. It just feels so right ya know?