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Just a quick two cents as you have already gotten lots of great advice. I don't agree that if you initially have a hard time imagining him with other women you probably aren't polyamorous. There are a lot of reasons why you might feel this way. When I started thinking about adopting polyamory...

What to do with the fear? (envy) Ah!... with the holidays I have been so busy and there has been no time to continue with my tale. I have read so much on here that poly only works when your existing relationships are healthy...and that totally makes sense. What I didn't expect from trying poly...

Hi! LOL, I was all ready to write about how I really feel for you and relate to your situation and that I have a lot of similar feelings and issues with discovering who I really am... and then I read that last post and I just started cracking up instead! :)

Hi RP. I'm a bit new... I wanted to thank you for sharing your story and posting such thoughtful messages. I really appreciate your commitment to the forum and to your own personal journey. Its honestly inspiring. I also especially loved the TED conference(s) that you shared on Invulnerability...

More back story... I have so much I want to write about and I am having a hard time figuring out how to divide it up into semi-comprehensible blocks. I want to write about my own relationship and understanding of poly. I want to write about my relationship with my partner, A, and how we came to...

It's the same for us girls! I was OKC for months trying to meet friends after moving to a new area and even as a woman I had the same problem with women not responding to my messages very often and never was I ever approached by a woman. Darn gender conditioning! ;)

I've been on here a few weeks and I've found myself starting posts and then not finishing them because I'm not necessarily looking for direct advice (although I welcome it) but more just support, community and a place to feel safe exploring my own feelings. Hence this here blog. :) I started...

Awh, I hope you don't think I'm being defensive. I'm just thinking out loud. :)

Neon - I totally understand where you are coming from and in a lot of ways I think triads can be much more complicated to navigate than individual polyamorous relationships. So to that end, I don't subscribe to the idea that triads are a "preferred configuration" for couples new to opening their...

Hi again, Iktomi! Its really nice reading about a triad relationship in a similar stage to mine... I feel like I might be kind of similar to your husband, in that my connection is lagging behind my partner's. Its mostly circumstantial, in that he's known her for 4 months longer than I have...

Aww. Thank you for your message Danny. I've been feeling a little like triads are the "red-headed step-children" of polyamory lately lol. It is really nice to hear from someone who is super positive and encouraging. :) We are taking it really slow which is helpful for me...its making it easier...

I totally agree with Raven. It is great for source for relationship advice. Lots of good info about communication and I also felt it really helped me to understand more about myself and what I want in my relationship/s in general. For me (to answer your "Why be with anyone else?" question)...

Have you read The Ethical Slut? It covers polyamory, open relationships, swinging and more. I think it is a great jumping off point.

Nice to meet you! Haha. You crack me up...only because I totally re-read my intro and wanted to rephrase things but then I saw I should enter a reason for the edit and the only thing I could honestly put was that I'm a teensy bit crazy. ;) It sounds like your road to poly was really similar to...

It's amazing! So hard to describe, but I guess I don't have to here. :) I don't think I have ever felt more free and open before. I love it. It just feels so right ya know?

Hey, polychron. Thanks! Yes, definitely a Fiest fan as well. :) And yes, it is a great area to live in, but SO expensive. We live in the East Bay too! How are you liking TX?

Nice to meet you too! Hi Iktomi, wow, it sounds like we are in similar situations and and both in the early stages too! How did you meet the girl your dating, if you don't mind me asking? It's such a tricky thing, I feel. Looking forward to keeping in touch.

I've been reading the forums a bit the last few days and I decided I like it here and I want to stay. :) Let's see... I'm 28 and I just got married this August. My partner and I are both pretty open minded and have had alternative relationship experiences in the past (before we met). He and I...