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    Mya's search for balance

    Thank you for your kind words, fuchka. :) Yeah, it's true that at least now I know for sure what I'm looking for and I can try to achieve that once I'm healed. My heart is still aching pretty badly at the moment. We said we want to remain friends, and I really do want that, but it will take...
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    Mya's search for balance

    Hello to anyone who still reads this. Things have changed, and I'm no longer in any sort of poly relationships, since me and Marco broke up. :( He told me a few weeks ago that he doesn't want to have kids and it's come up before that it's unlikely that he'd be able to move to my country in the...
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    Mya's search for balance

    Hello! It's been almost a year since I last wrote here, so I thought I'd give you an update. Living in my home country has been good, it was the right decision. I recently bought a little house in my home town as well, so now I'm very close to my family and some old friends, which feels lovely...
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    Mya's search for balance

    It's been a while! So, I've now moved back to my home country. And nothing has gone the way I expected poly-wise. :p I thought I'd just stop being poly and find a monogamous person to date eventually. Well, in the end I just couldn't let go of Marco. What we have is so special. Of course we'll...
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    Mya's search for balance

    I've now set a fairly firm timetable for the move. Firm in the sense that I've actually started to contact moving companies. I'm moving in two months, in mid-September. I've gone back and forward with it, at times doubting the decision and once delaying the moving date, but in the end coming to...
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    Is polyamory by choice or not?

    Based on the responses so far, I'd say you are correct. :) It seems that there are people who couldn't be happy romantically without being poly and then there are people who could take it or leave it - just depends on the situation whether they're choosing a poly relationship or not.
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    Is polyamory by choice or not?

    I think that even though poly relationships/situations are more compelling or desirable to some people than others, in the end it is a choice to act on that desire. I don't think it's the same as sexual orientation. Personally I've been in a situation where I was in a monogamous relationship...
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    Mya's search for balance

    Thanks for your comments, fuchka and opalescent! :) I do feel pretty settled with this decision. I mean, of course it's going to be hard to leave a place I've spent a significant chunk of my life in and made important connections in, but...it's time. The last couple of times I've spent time...
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    Mya's search for balance

    I've made a big decision: I'm going to move back to Home Country. That's of course going to be hard for me and Marco, but he's just not in a position to give me the kind of partnership I want and I haven't found anyone else here who could either. I've started to really miss my mom and I want to...
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    Not Dead Yet!

    Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! :)
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    Mya's search for balance

    I've been keeping this advice in mind, it's a good one. I recently hung out with the person I mentioned months ago, the one I was interested in but decided not to do anything about. I didn't even tell her I have a crush on her, but I found out in conversation that she's not looking for romantic...
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    Mya's search for balance

    Thanks for your input, Meera! Yep, I have come to this conclusion too. Paige has some qualities that I already know wouldn't work for me in a house sharing situation, so I'm not going to go down that route. I also don't think I'd want to live in a multi-partner situation in general, but I was...
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    The Best Life Yet

    Thank you for posting this, Reverie. It's so beautifully written. <3 I'm glad you've found what works for you, and I wish all the good things for you going forward with monogamy!
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    Mya's search for balance

    Thank you so much for your perspective, breathemusic! I will definitely take it into account. :)
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    Mya's search for balance

    I just thought of one outside the box option: 4) Move in with a friend who is in a similar situation and treat each other as 'life partners' in that sharing of everyday life and having each other's backs kind of way Pros: + I'd get to continue the relationship with Marco. + I'd get some...
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