Recent content by Myscreenname

I think marriage works for some, but I agree it shouldn't be the only way to be "succesdful" in life. I've been married six years, have three children. I would do things worlds differently if I were the now me, then.

If poly didn't cover a lot of arrangements, your "poly definition" thread would have been short. It's closed minded and juvenile to think your way is the only way. Maybe you would know that if you didn't try to bully new members for doing things differently.

He changed his mind. People do that. She can leave the relationship, or work something out with him. The only way to do that is for the OP to talk to her, not internet strangers that tell him he is wrong for not doing it the way they do.

Some commenters like to think their way of poly is the only way. While "poly" still covers a lot of arrangements. Take the advice of internet strangers with a grain of salt...

If you're not comfortable, you're not comfortable. That doesn't make you a D. Talk to her. Work something out with her. Make sure you're 100% comfortable with what you two work out, anything less can breed resentment.

I don't know anyone personally. There are six billion+ people in the world, it silly to think there's only one way of doing things... Especially when members of this forum can't agree on the poly definiton. The three of us are pretty happy.

Oy, another unhelpful commenter. Thanks for stopping by sweetie.

Roc, what's a process?

I meant to say most people. There are a lot of people in this kind of arrangement. It's a big world. Maybe people with this kind of arrangement don't stick around this forum, because they kept getting told they were doing things wrong.

Tin, I think people air grievances in forums more than post about how happy they are. People search out forums because they have questions on how to work something out. That's how I found this site. I wouldn't randomly join a forum just to post how good things are going. KWIM?

Tin, that relationship was almost a decade ago. I didn't see things as unfair at the time/still don't. They banged each other without me, but no one else. I slept in their bed with them, when I was there. We went on dates as a threesome. I don't know what else you'd like me to expand on...

Update: we talked last night. We went over boundaries, coworker does have some after thinking about things. We (the three of us) are going to have a closed relationship for now. Hopefully find another chick at some point in our travels. Thank you again to the people that helped (not just...

Good update. It's nice to hear you guys worked things out.

Pow, not the issue I'm having. Thanks for trying to help. Bat, I'm still not sure where I conveyed the need for handholding and sunshine blown up my nethers. I have received very good advice, just not from everyone.

Mag, as expressed in this forum by another senior member, polyamory doesn't have a universal definition. To imply that one is doing it wrong or "not the way most others do it", is silly. I wasn't referring to you as sad. I said you were finger wagging and unhelpful. I've seen your comments...