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Read the Song of Soloman. It's a poly love story. She is in love with her man who is the king of Israel. He has many wives and concubines and she craves him. He decides to spend the night with her that night and a hot love scene ensues. Yet Christians ignore the poly aspect entirely.

Shame is a powerful tool that I'm learning about right now. It's something religion and cultures use a lot but even we use it in our relationships. It generally has little to do with right and wrong and a lot more to do with control and manipulation.

Ideas that are different usually get met with, "Who have you been talking to?", "You are spending too much time on the Internet!", or "You need to start going to church again." As if somehow you have been led astray by radical Islamists who are trying to get you to join ISIS or Demons trying to...

Where is "abroad" for someone in the UK? For us US people abroad might mean the UK. :-)

I actually used to write a lot. Almost finished a novel before I lost it forever. I tried writing some erotica and romance stuff for her. She found it odd at the time and didn't have the greatest reaction. But maybe she is in a better place for something like that now?

Mulholland Drive was right up my alley. Sexy and disturbing and complicated. Might check out a few of the others too. Some appear to be on Netflix. I sent my wife the website www.literotica.com too. Might be that she prefers to read stuff and maybe we can read stuff and send it to each other if...

Update: One week into this month of focussing entirely on each other. It's actually going really well. We have had great conversations. Last night my wife and I had 2 deep conversations. First she expressed a concern in a calm manner about a cruise I am going on in a few months without her...

We have read that one and it was definitely helpful if nothing else than to open dialogue about how we each feel loved in different ways. Has anybody ever read this one? http://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-Edition/dp/0071771328/ref=zg_bs_4729_10/190-6485231-0591346...

I'm not thinking a full on poly book is what we need right now. But thanks for the suggestion. At this point that will seem like pushing something on her that our relationship isn't ready for anyways.

If there were ever a time to show your authentic self to her its now!

I'm looking for a book my wife and I can read and talk about together. We need to learn better communication skills with each other. We are struggling to see when something is a control issue or when it is a legitimate concern that I should be sensitive to. Perhaps personal boundaries? She has...

I've seen The Secretary. I enjoyed it. I'm not sure my wife will. Might be worth a shot.

Good luck in your journey. I can appreciate what you are doing. Just make sure you set good personal boundaries and always have an out.

I enjoy watching pornography on occasion and wouldn't mind incorporating it into our intimate time occasionally. My wife doesn't enjoy it at all. But she does enjoy reading romance novels and watching some of the sexier main stream movies with me like 50 Shades, 9 1/2 weeks, the English patient...

Are you actively pursuing this lifestyle or just wanting him to be more understanding of your preference? If you are desiring poly or bust, then you may at least at this point be getting your answer.