Recent content by Newtoexplore24

"For you it will be easier to navigate bumps and wobbles if Wife's not getting obnoxious with her NRE for Friend and gushing all over the place, not oversharing TMI details in either direction, and not treating you like the free relationship coach/free therapist." True, I do feel some NRE. I...

Thank you. Some valid points that I need to reflect on. I will reply. Your thoughts are helpful. But I need time. I think ultimately this was arrived at accidentally. It isn't what we started. So there's a little shock mixed with the grief. There's conflict in the 'knowing'! The more I know...

Thanks. At present, and for our entire relationship, I have never wanted involvement with others, casual or poly. Of course, feelings change, but I am clear in this, and so it isn't one-sided in that way, just that her feelings and mine on that happen to concur. I think much of what is...

Thank you, some helpful thoughts, but let me clear up a couple of misunderstandings or lack of clarity. The use of they was linguistic, not based on identy, she idetifies as she, is gay and not bi, and within the Masc/fem spectrum would identify as androgynous. Not my place to put labels on to...

Thank you. I think in hindsight there is an element of rush. Partly a reaction to a few days of feeling more settled and therefore trying to 'normalise' things. Partly an attempt to get to know, and so 'demystify' the other. I agree, it's not terrible. It has already had benefits, and I see the...

I'm/we're finding ourselves in what is or might be, as in we are very early in, a poly relationship. It is wonderful and frightening and I'd like a little advice please. A little background. We've been together for 10 years and married for 1. We are very much in love, more than ever. And I feel...