Recent content by nks

Hi! Reading your deep analysis of unicorn hunting and sensitivity to the sitatuation, I think you might have a shot at doing well in complex relationships. I am someone who stumbled into a triad (FMF) with zero knowledge of polyamory and no experience in dealing with complex relationships...

Hi! Polyamory mixed in with sexual orientation issues can complicate things. I can see that you are really trying to solve the situation. I think you should not give up yet, and try communicating more. So, just to be clear: you are feeling that you might be a lesbian (sexually), but you are...

I was in an FMF relationship with A and B. When we broke up due to distance, I kept dating one of the girls (A) long distance for a short while mono, then to her request in an open relationship. And sometimes we talked all three of us as friends. A knew the other, B, and me were in love and was...

Interesting thread. I was in an FMF and it was very satisfying but was a short-term thing. We all got separated by distance, and long-term the whole was perhaps not too stable. The girls liked each other, but clearly one of the girls (A) had much more affection towards the other (B) than the...

There can be many reasons, of course. There are women who just crave attention. But, I would assume that she has something deeper going on with that male friend. Maybe an ambigous, a little flirty relationship where they don't cross the line, but go beyond just a little for excitement. Maybe she...

I can relate. I'm in a monogamous relationship now, but if we openned up it would be pretty much like your case for me. I am not a 'going to bars' type and prefer deeper relationship that develop into something more. Not easy when you have no time. I would try but probably would not get quick...

This is indeed a difficult situation. I feel that there is the bisexual element at play. Sometimes when you are bisexual, it is not easy to find the right partner. This is just my conjecture, but this is how I read this: Britney might have had a longstanding desire to be with a woman, even...

I understand how you feel. The main problem often is not that our wife is with someone else or that they have sex, but the fear of losing her attention and focus on us. That we have to compete for time, affection, and other things in her heart, and maybe even lose her. The beginning is the worst...

Hi, I have limited experience with poly compared to other posters but I just add a few thoughts. At first read, it reads like he is more into her and he neglects your needs. It might be the case. However, I just wanted to add another perspective. I don't know if this is something that is useful...

Very good, clear advice in all the other posts. I just want to ask you this: What do you mean by good relationship with your meta? Do you feel like you are becoming good friends? Do you like hanging out? Do any of you perhaps have feelings for the other? From a V-poly sense, disclosing things...

Can you give us a little bit more detail?

Thank you. You can read up on the cuckold lifestyle on ourhotwives. Perhaps the word puts you off. It is not the best word for it, really. They also call it the hotwife lifestyle, which puts the focus on the sexiness and confidence of the wife. It is not about cheating, but mainly about enjoying...

Hi! You have to realize that you are in a very complex relationship. You should go over each and every point the previous posters raised and think it through. Depending on how you answer those questions, my answer might become irrelevant. However, I used to be in a triad with two girls. (I am...

Well, as I read this, I feel that you have actually been participating from the beginning too, and it seems she did not leave you out of the experience. The cuck lifestyle is not about sitting in the room with the wife. Simon might like that, but you don't have to. Many husbands prefer the wife...

Agreed. My suggestion applies only if these are taken care of. Especially, if you are not in an open marriage on your side, then you need to address things properly first.