Recent content by notsureatall

I used to just say no. I was totally close minded. The topic kept coming up and I ended up finding here are doing research. However I found trying to talk to her that things go in loops and I don’t think she’s emotionally capable of anything like this. I also am not willing to accept a one sided...

yeah. thats it.

Never let me explore.

I don't want to leave her over this. If she could be clear about her fantasies maybe we could have a genuine mid ground that works for both of us. The one big thing she occasionally comes back to is that she wants the freedom to explore but could never let me. I think that's part of the loop

I've tried, so often and it leaves me more confused. Maybe you would have encountered the same thing. Regardless, I appreciate you sharing this. I feel like I'm on a similar path.

She seems convinced he's interested. I do wonder if he's said something.

Trying to get any sort of consistent answers out of her is almost impossible. Maybe because she's fighting this within herself.

It's really confusing. I don't know.

Yeah I did.

Asked her about her questions and comments about this guy. Said she has no interest in him at all. Realises he is into her, and was just curious at my response to knowing this guy wants her.

She said she thinks he’s conflicted. Not sure what that means .

He gave her a hug at work, and she noticed he was hard. Apparently that got her thinking.

What bothers me as well is that this man is married. I've not heard her have any moral objections over that. Yet there are lots of objections over women that she talks about me being with (she's married, you work with her, she's in our friendship circle). Seems like an imbalance how she assesses...

At this point, I'd prefer it to come to head so I can make those decisions. The discovery of a stash of cuckquean porn was the first step. I don't want to invade her privacy again and I've not brought it up with her.

Generally, yes.In terms of our sex life, it's like a hurricane and exhausting.