Recent content by oneiromancer

if you found out your partner in a new relationship has had problems with self harm in the past, and there is a small chance of relapse, is this a deal breaker for you?

I just got back from a therapy appointment. I talked over the guilt I'm feeling about wanting to leave, and it's going to be a long road because I'm normally more concerned with how others feel over how I feel. I basically need to put the caregiver role on hold... which is really hard for me...

Thanks for the links--I'll take a look at those. Also, there are only two friends I've talked to at length about what's been going on. They think it's abuse. But they also know my husband, and aren't going to just tell me to leave. Although, I suspect one of my friends really wants to tell me...

I think you're right... I just... I keep looking for signs of change in him. Sometimes I see it, but then he'll do something to prove to me that he's not changing. Even so, I don't know how to fall out of love. Love is something that comes so easily and naturally to me. I don't know how to...

I think I might be in an abusive relationship. My friends who know about it are being very careful not to influence my decision one way or another, but are there for me in whatever I choose to do. My therapist is the same--she won't tell me to leave or stay. I thought I'd post here some of the...