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I am curious if anyone here can speak to being a highly sensitive person practicing polyamory? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highly_sensitive_person Discovering that I am an HSP was really eye-opening for me, in a similar way to realizing that I am poly. It helps to explain a lot of...

I have been in a poly relationship for a year, and I still get a bit jealous and weird feelings sometimes when my partner talks about others that he is dating or finds attractive. My feelings about it depend a lot on the situation - if we are on a date and I feel like he isn't being very...

When I was more single (I still consider myself solo-ish poly, even though I am currently living with a partner) I was casually dating 2 people around the same time. As I started to fall in love the other relationship really fizzled out, because I was SOO into the other guy I wanted to focus my...

I have a 4 year old and very much disagree with this. Of course children take an enormous amount of time and energy, but I don't find it anymore challenging to do now as a Relationship Anarchist than I did as someone in a traditionally monogamous marriage. Actually, now it is easier in many ways...

As far as I am concerned, being able to solve problems as an equal with your partner and negotiate your relationship is a fundamental part of any decent relationship. People who have this view are often referred to as non-hierarchal. Because why would someone use the word secondary except to...

Thank so much for your thoughtful reply! Yes, he knows it is very stressful for me. But his response is along the lines of "I'm sorry this is hard/stressful/hurtful" and then he feels a ton of guilt for his part in it, but it doesn't actually seem to affect his decision making or...

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and some major life and relationship changes for us lately have revealed that I have a great deal of built up resentment, towards him and his (now ex) partner. He is my first poly relationship after ending my marriage, and going into it I thought it...

He doesn't *have* to share it with me at all (well, except sex with someone new that might put me at a greater risk of STIs, before we have sex again, for consent reasons.) Its just something easy for us to share with one another in the spirit of full disclosure. We usually tell one another if...

It sounds like guys who just haven't been all that interested, which doesn't mean you have done anything wrong. But at least in my experience if a guy is romantically really into me, they are pretty obvious about it. And I tend to like guys who are somewhat more demonstrative, communicative, and...

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It is really great you are thinking in detail about these things in advance. It is great to have a really solid idea of what your partner wants/needs/expects to know about your other relationships. I always tell people I am going on dates with or interested about being poly, explicitly, right...

When I first started dating my boyfriend (who is my married) he didn't text/call me nearly as much as I am used to a new bf communicating with me. And it wasn't that he was lukewarm about me or our relationship, there was SOO much NRE between us, but I didn't get the amount of...

I think I would just be really blunt, in a friendly way. "I like hanging out with you and find you very attractive. Are you interested in a romantic or sexual relationship with me, or do you feel more platonic?" Or even if you are sitting and watching a show together and he isn't being flirty...

I know that my boyfriend "compares" his wife and I sometimes, but I don't feel judged by it. Like he'll make offhanded comments about how I am more affectionate, or how she needs more alone time, or likes certain sexual positions more with one or the other of us. Generally it doesn't bother me...

Keep in mind that most monogamous relationships don't last forever either. Or even if they do last an entire lifetime, that doesn't mean that the people in the couple are happy or fulfilled. Length of time in a relationship is not the same thing as a successful relationship. I think its good...