Recent content by Perrey

I agree with what you wrote. I accepted what I saw as helpful and I wrote no thank you to those I didn't find helpful. To me sympathy and empathy are very different concepts. Sympathy drives disconnection and empathy creates connection. Sympathy is the finding the silver lining, putting down...

The tone of your message is disquieting. What purpose do you hope to achieve with your response ? It would seem that having an emotional response and yes, making statements from an emotional standpoint equates with being unprepared mentally or emotionally for shitty experiences as you pointed...

In time. One day. The point is, there is hope again and not so much the wanting to wash my hands with society and say heck with it, then go live out in the middle of no where. Disgust is a powerful feeling and sensation. Makes you want to just leave and close the door. Ick.

I was in a poly relationship for 5 years that ended 2 years ago. It was the first and only. The online situation happened within the last few days. I too have been approached and propositioned a few times. Not hundreds or more. I am reserved and I take time in my life seriously. I don't waste...

As to the part of "Yes, this." I do not agree with the grow a thicker skin. I think that is inappropriate and dismissive. The situation was weird and that's why I left. What I did write was, that I am disgusted. I am disappointed and that hurts. I am angry too. I am more angry than...

To this advice I will say thank you for your response but no thank you in the content. Seven weeks to you in your life is nothing. Seven weeks of my life, is seven weeks of my life. I take exception to anyone wasting seven weeks of my life with their drama and issues. As to growing thicker...

I hope so. I hope this will pass and I am wrong about my fears. Thank you.

KDT I knew he had a partner. Later it came out that the partner had issues. Then it came out that the issues were serious. I didn't know how serious until I saw the posting on social media. That's when I left. I am taking time. I am re-evaluating. I am worried and scared. I don't want this as...

All interactions were online via email then over to texting. No face to face meeting or telephone conversations. Telephone was identified as uncomfortable on his part. Face to face meeting wasnt easy as there was distance. Time period was 7 weeks. Everything went haywire in the last two weeks.

I am going to echo what a few have pointed out. Do you believe you deserve this kind of treatment? I am also going to echo the statement that if the relationship ends you will not emotionally, physically or psychologically die. I know, from my own personal experience, that it FEELS like you...

Have you asked how he defines love? What is love to him? And what is love to you? Is he publicly affectionate with you when its one on one versus only on Facebook? Have you asked how the others with pet names came to be? Was it developed over time? Is it something related to the...

Thank you Feather Fool. What you wrote is exactly what I feel. I keep thinking I should feel relieved that I left. I think yeah, I got out. The only thought I have is, I don't want that. That's where the disgust is coming from. I made it clear what I could and couldn't do. Yet, my boundaries...

I am writing as I need to vent and maybe glean new insights into a situation I found myself and subsequently left. I met a man online. He was nice, we had a high percentage match. We had a lot in common. At first it was going very well. We mainly communicated via email. Then as we were moving...

Set your boundaries and stick to them. A relationship isn't all about the other person, you have a place as well. If you are uncomfortable, listen. Its not a bad thing to say I won't want this, or I am not comfortable with this. You have to advocate for yourself. When you set a boundary and...

In my meanderings in learning more and more about female domination, I can't say I subscribe to any one tenant. There does seem to be some very specific types. Which, considering humanity, is bound to happen. I believe individual negotiation is vital to expression and exploration. The...