Recent content by phoenix

I am so glad Zay that relaying my story was useful to you in some way. And thank you for your thoughts on approaching poly. I do really like your idea of trying to imagine a group scenario to see if I may be able to experience compersion. I have experienced freudenfreude before so maybe it’s...

Unfortunately Zay, I may not be one of the cases you’re looking for. I am not polyamorous, nor had I ever considered the possibility until 2 friends recently approached my wife and me about a more intimate relationship. This happened after I survived my NDE and decided I needed to live my...

I am not an obstetrician or obstetrics nurse, but I do know that obstetricians and nurses do care very much about mothers and their babies. I found that those peers who choose this field tend to more openly display joy and caring. Nurses are often (not always) better at displaying that caring...

You’re right Magdlyn……it was foolish of me to use the stereotype……I too have witnessed many births and not all babies cry (although many docs traditionally prefer to hear that sound to let them know the baby’s unlikely to be lethargic). I was using the stereotype to refer to the sensory overload...

Hi Zay, I experienced an NDE approximately a year and a half ago and I view the time I’m living now like a gift from the universe (I now also see very clearly that my life leading up to the NDE was also a miraculous gift). It prompted me to ask myself how I would like to live this ‘bonus life’...

Thank you all for the encouraging comments. And it is wonderful to virtually meet you too SkeetScamp. From what you’ve all told me, the community sounds quite welcoming and meeting people face-to-face does seem best to me at this point. So, I think I’m ready to jump in and try it. Apparently...

Thanks Evie, On more exploration I noticed most people left their ages etc. on their profiles, so I decided to leave my age/sexuality out there too. I didn’t fill out my ‘about me’ profile since I’m just educating myself reading discussions/stickies for now. I thought I had a reasonable idea...

Thanks so much for the info. I will try to adjust my profile since I just want to look around for now. Love the 99yo from Antarctica 😂……think I might use this for now.

On rereading this I realized I should clarify something. The man was not at fault for contacting me in his preferred way, even though he apologized. I mistakenly left myself completely open to be contacted , so lesson learned. Entirely my fault. Limitations and boundaries always stated up front.

This is not strictly a poly inquiry, but Fetlife has been mentioned a few times on this site and I hope some people familiar with the site can help me. Since you cannot browse Fetlife without joining, I decided to join using minimal information so I could just explore. I added a photo (in...

That’s actually exactly what happened. My anxiety was stemming from the thought of needing to cover up authentic self when I have worked very hard to become (and share with others) my entire authentic being. I was associating being available again with having to cover up certain aspects of...

Thanks Kevin. Your responses have made me think carefully about why I have had this sudden concern when I haven’t felt uncertain about anything like this in many years. I know there will be sexually objectifying men out there (there always are) and yes, I may run into a few more again because...

Thanks for your reply Magdlyn. If I choose to attend a sex party/viewing event I am definitely going with friends just to watch (and I may go as my cosplay alter ego for fun). Sounds eye-opening! 😳 I think it’s fantastic that there are increasingly additional ways to meet potential partners...

Thanks for your thoughts Kevin. To answer some of your inquiries, I have never felt unsafe in Toronto and I don’t think I’m very likely in danger of physical attack. I am reasonably tall for a woman and athletic, as well as trained in enough karate/self-defence to feel comfortable. I do not...

I am sorry to hear about your horrible experience at college Magdlyn and can empathize with the effects that can have on personality and behaviour. Thanks for the link. I will take a look, but yes, I, like many women, have had years of practice deflecting unwanted attention. I am interested...