Recent content by Phy

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    Mya's search for balance

    Sorry to read about that :( Really sorry for you. If moving could serve as a distraction and you think about moving anyway some time in the future, maybe it would be a good time for it. At least it sounds as if you need a change of air.
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    Phy's story - As you like it

    We can derive a benefit from the simple fact that our twins are twins in comparison to a single child: They can and want to play together. We do not have to be with them all of the time. But that does not grant us that much time on the 'plus-side' overall, of course. I don't know if it makes...
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    Phy's story - As you like it

    Well ... almost ten months later! How is everyone doing? I haven't been to the forum in ages and am back right now because of, well, procrastination unfortunately :p School is on summer break and I should work on all the paperwork and my preparations for my final degree, but ... ah well, I...
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    How to react when your husband knocks up another woman?

    Sounds overall more positive and level headed. Good for you. I wish you luck, patience and compassion in the upcoming months. Family reaction can be quite harsh and hard to stomach. Happened to us as well, when we introduced our respective families to our living arrangement (me and my two...
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    Phy's story - As you like it

    Well, that was a longer search for my blog in the section ;) Feels like necromancing my own thread. Hey everyone, I hope you are doing fine and everyone is well. As we just had to clear a stumbling block from our path I thought about checking in and write about it. There are many factors...
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    Mya's search for balance

    Sounds intense on all fronts. I guess that is always the inherent danger when dealing with multiple relationships under one roof: Breakups complicate things considerably. I hope it stays civil and bearable.
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    Can a 10 year mono relationship turn mono-poly?

    Hm, I was drawn by the title but our stories don't quite match each other. We were mono for eleven years as well and then my second partner finally and fully came into the picture. But I never actively pursued it, quite the opposite actually, and there were no kids when we started out. We are...
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    Ask a triad - advice column

    Does it even have to be a triad, self? Why not a V type relationship with you as the hinge? If the women are not in love with each other it's ok to not force that. If your wife wants to explore with a woman it can stay physical and everybody will know what they get into without the pressure of...
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    Polyandry advice required

    Hey there. We have been through all of this. First of all, sorry to hear that your family is not accepting and making it hard for you. Mine was as well and that of my husband ... well, they needed time. In short: I am with my husband for 16 years by now. I met my bf about 9 years ago and we...
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    Redpepper's journey

    I can't agree with your view of poly in general, but yours sepcifically ... yes :( Sorry this happened to you and changed everything for you.
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    Poly after being cheate)d on...(long post

    This is all about him. Is there a certain wish, you want to realize? You can not change his needs or wants. If he does not have any desire in that regard, everything is fine, als long as you do not want other things out of your realtionship right now.
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    Phy's story - As you like it

    Hey all :) I am finally working in school. It is a challenging time, emotionally; at least that is the main focus for me. The lessons work out quite well, I do not think that I will have major problems with the practical side of teaching. But the pupils ... I have a really hard time separating...
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    What about the Kids?

    Yes, from my point of view that is the main point. In our case it's 'full exposure' to poly as we are a three-parent-family. But this does not mean arbitrary rules, changing persons to whom the kids relate to or other stuff associated with changing partners. Poly in our case is just like...
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    The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

    Well, we won't have a party because of it, so yes, you are right, the 0 at the end seems more of a reason to celebrate ;) Maybe our 10th anniversary. Indeed, it gets better every year as far as we can tell.
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    The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

    Something special about five years? ^.^ We will celebrate our 5th in July as well :D Happy Anniversary, Jane :)