Recent content by pnw_pale

Thank you. I had somewhat come to this conclusion. I can't continue to feel hurt. It isn't good for me or them. Just a matter of how I move next.

I do not want to combine finances with him. (Currently.) We manage money drastically different and have different financial values. I should have clarified more. He has suggested findom. I still don't feel comfortable with it and we have not moved forward. It would impact his current partners...

Thank you. All of that makes sense. Per our last discussion he didn't want parallel poly. I might have to revisit this conversation though.

Your response to 3 & 4. Absolutely agreed. I have expressed my concern with communication and moved on. I also stopped extending the olive branch and have put the topic of resource management on pause. That's good to know your interpretation of KTP. Helpful. This is the only aspect of my life...

Thank you for taking the time to reply. 1.) I am under the impression that if you are struggling in your relationship(s) the concept of adding another relationship to the mix isn't ideal. If four of his partners were already complaining about not spending enough time with him, etc, a fifth...

@GalaGirl Thank you for the response. Colors work well. "It might be hard to respect/admire Red if he doesn't stand up to Orange and tell she needs to respect the (Red + You) dyad or any other dyad." This is exactly it. I feel hurt by it and it makes me trust him less. As for his finances...

Hello. I have yet to really find poly people in person when it comes to a support system or friendship group. All of my poly connections are currently via the internet and all of the people in the polycule are involved with the same forum. I want to share my situation with someone(s) who doesn't...