Recent content by polyconflicted

You're not the only one who picked up on him possibly feeling shame for something because on another forum, someone wrote, "Do you really have time for this kind of thing? *Don't you want it to be natural and easy without you having to walk on eggshells because you think his people do whatever...

I think you're totally right. I'm not important to him. I was a convenience. Of course he'll be chasing her down. It was written all over his body language. I think he has reservations about her age but not enough. He can do what he wants though, we're done. I'm just annoyed that he...

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought so. I don't understand his reaction at all.

Thanks guys. No we don't have any other partners. Until recently, he said he didnt have the energy or the time. It's a moot point though. Pretty sure we broke up. That night on the way back from the party, I started a discussion about the fact that ever since his brother moved in, I've...

My boyfriend is working so many hours lately that I don't see him enough as it is. He knows that I want to see him more often and he claims that he wants to see me more often as well, he's just extremely busy with work. We only see each other for one date and sleepover a week. Only on weekends...

He was talking about her like it was love at first sight. Yet when I asked if he wanted to pursue her, he insisted he has no interest in dating her. And that he can find women appealing without wanting to date them. His reaction seemed weirdly defensive so I'm a little worried that he's not...

Thanks guys, I really appreciate everyone's input. Feel better about things already.

Jealous feelings are cropping up already and we haven't even started seeing others. We both agreed we're open to it if it happens but it's not a priority. I feel silly for this, but here it goes. We went to a gaming meetup together and on the walk home he was commenting on a girl we met and...

I'm in an 8 month relationship with a guy who is open to dating others but hasn't gone out of his way to date(no dating profiles or anything) and no opportunities have come up for him. We are in a gaming community together which involves a few hundred people in our large city. There are...

Thanks Sparklepop. It helps. I have to interact with him until I move out Friday and he's really putting on the charm and acting sweet again. The last time he spoke about the relationship he tried to claim that all of our problems the past year can be traced back to my affair years ago. "Not...

Update: I had another discussion with him. Now I have even more reason to move on. He told me he wants to live by himself and hang out once a week- no contact otherwise. Just check up on eachother and try to rebuild our relatuonship over time. Which I considered for a moment. Then he said he...

Bookbug, it's interesting you say that because I was going to mention that at one point he told me he sometimes sees me as an extension of himself. So when I'm upset about anything, it's extremely difficult for him. He also gets angry about any criticism. Especially if it's about his behavior...

Thanks for the great advice everyone. Since things were stable for 9 years and the months after my last post it's hard to let go. Hoped if I changed my approach somehow, I could get him to see that if he changes his behaviors, this is fixable. I thought maybe somehow I taught him it's OK to...

Looking for suggestions or a reality check. I probably sound incredibly door-mat-ey. Hope you have the patience to read. Background:I started a thread months ago about my live-in boyfriend of 10 years. He pushed a poly relationship and was untrustworthy...

Sorry it's long. I'm completely new to this and looking for perspective on if this is even salvageable. I'm mono & have lived with my BF for 9 years. 6 years ago, I had a 9 month affair with his best friend, who lived with us. I was given a chance, and worked hard to repair the broken damage...