Recent content by Prax

That's actually what I've been thinking for a while. The problem was definitely there before, but finding a new SO just exacerbated things. As far as living with my boyfriend, I don't really have a choice. We're in college, living in a 6-person suite together - it's how we met. My fiancé and I...

Losing desire for primary. Is it the NRE? Background: I am currently the hinge in a V between my fiancé of two years and new boyfriend of about two months. Living with boyfriend at school, fiancé (primary, of course) is long distance. Problem is, since starting the relationship with my...

I'm not going to comment on the specific instance, but I've noticed that ignoring female-on-male abuse is definitely a common thing in the dominant culture. It seems to spring from sexist ideas about strength and power: since men are always "strong" and women are always "weak," a woman hitting a...

Thanks for the advice! And don't worry, marriage is not actually that important to either of us right now, but we consider ourselves engaged mostly for the sake of my (highly religious) family. We don't plan to actually marry at least until both of us are finished with our education, if then.

Hi poly people! I'm Prax, a 20-year-old woman, currently the hinge in an open V with two men. J, my fiancé of two years, currently lives in another state as I attend college. A, a new boyfriend of this year, is one of my roommates at school. Since I introduced both of them to polyamory, I feel...

Hi Mike! We are in a somewhat similar situation, though totally different demographic - I'm a 20-year-old female in the middle of a V with two men, my "theoretically poly" (interested but never dated anyone else) fiancé of two years, and a relatively new mono boyfriend of a few months. The...