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    Tri-Cities (Pasco), WA: Relationship Workshops

    Hi Polyamory.com! I've been a member for a few years now, this forum is where I got a lot of my initial information and advice. Thank you so much for the community you've created here! It's been 8 years since I started my exploration into polyamory. In that time, I've become a Relationship...
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    Bubble Burst

    Her kids are 1.5 years, and then 5 and 6 years. She was asking if I was willing to spend time with her and her kids at the same time. I felt like I was being welcomed into the family. I met her husband, her other boyfriend, we all sat and chatted and got along. I even met several of her...
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    Bubble Burst

    Yes, definitely. I think this is something that should always be in place.
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    Bubble Burst

    I think you hit the nail on the head with this one, Dagferi. I think I was just kind of drowning in my emotions and didn't see what was actually going on. She has a 10-day vacation planned with her husband and kids coming up (Feb 17-27). Her parents watched over her kids during the previous...
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    Bubble Burst

    Hi all, I'm writing here to express what's going on with me. Writing helps me process, and you're more than welcome to share your experiences or words of support as well. I've been seeing a pretty amazing woman for about 3 months now. She's married, with 3 kids, has a husband and another lover...
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    Breach of Trust with STI info of partners

    Hey everyone, you may remember my thread from a few months back, about GF and MA. Here's the other thread (not necessary for understanding this thread): http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=87776 Brief synopsis of that thread: GF started seeing MA, we discussed fluid bonding, GF...
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    Trust and fluid bonding

    GF and I have gone back to using condoms. She understands that we can re-open the discussion about fluid bonding after a negative HSV test result 2 months after they break up.
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    Trust and fluid bonding

    They broke up, mix of emotions. GF and MA had a date scheduled last night. I just got a text from GF this morning saying that they broke up. I'm swimming in a mix of emotions right now: 1) Relief, that I don't have this new person to adjust to any more; 2) Sadness, that GF is now sad, and I...
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    Trust and fluid bonding

    The meeting went well! We're back together, love and trust restored. We're cuddly and adorable with each other again. There were some things I said that she took to mean I didn't care about her, like "Love matters most when it's the last thing you want to do." To which she asked, "Is it the...
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    Trust and fluid bonding

    GF is coming over in half an hour. We spent a few days apart, she wasn't sleeping well and needed to take care of herself. We cancelled a date we had planned so that she could do this. This afternoon, I called her like she asked me to, so we could plan out our time. She needed to go home and...
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    Trust and fluid bonding

    Yes, we've chosen to continue using condoms. I'm learning to grow into the idea that her relationship with MA, whether or not they're using condoms, in comparison to me, really doesn't have much to do with GF's relationship with me. Yes, there's the health consideration, but I'm releasing the...
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    Trust and fluid bonding

    Yes, she did break my trust, but only once. When she chose to have sex with (when the condom broke), the only request that I had made of her is to ask about his STD test results and when he was tested. That was all. There was nothing in the request about how recent the test needed to be. Yes, it...
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    Trust and fluid bonding

    Hi PinkPig, thank you so much for your reply. It really helped me consider things I hadn't before. It is relieving to hear that you're still negative for HSV2. And yes, for me there was a lot of betrayal To answer your question, she is very trustworthy in other areas. Like I said, we are...
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    Trust and fluid bonding

    Hello, everyone! I've been a member of this forum for quite a few years, and I post every now and again. This is something that I got news of just this evening, about 4 hours ago. I'm looking for a place to write down my thoughts and feelings. Also if you have any experiences similar to mine...
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    Difficulty getting needed transparency

    Hi Malthus! I've been poly for about 5 years now, I have 1 girlfriend and 4 lovers. I have definitely tried to navigate situations like yours before. From what I read, it seems like what you need and what she finds reasonable are at odds with each other. I've definitely had lovers who have...
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