Recent content by raz0rf0x

Well... Slight update: It turns out the circumstances under which she started seeing this new guy were not what she had told me they were. It had been going on longer and they way they met were different than she had initially purported. Which means she lied again. She says that she doesn't know...

It would disappoint me, yes. We've been making plans and it's been frustrating having them spoiled so often. You're probably right that clinging to a particular outcome is preventing me from fully enjoying what we do have. We have both expressed a desire for a particular outcome. So yes, it may...

I wonder where I said that I didn't want her to have a boyfriend. There seems to be a lot if reactions to my post suggesting that I don't. I'm also getting replies that seem to suggest that I didn't mention that she's had other partners in the past and that I had no problem with that. Let me...

I believe I understand the gist of what you're saying. I guess I do have a fear-based perspective often. I'm not really much of a pessimist, I don't think, but when it comes to emotions I am often preoccupied with the fear of loss. You're right, it does begin a chain of anxiety that causes me to...

Yes, that I should bail on this before I get too lost in this. Edit: You know.. "frustrated" doesn't feel like the right word. Although it's probably technically accurate. What I feel is just uncertainty and I'm having trouble reeling in my emotions. I haven't have this much trouble before so...

I totally hear you. I know I'm being stubborn and a little stupid here. I've ended relationships for less because I can't let externalities affect my marriage. I have a wife, kids, dogs, a mortgage... All that grown up stuff. And I'm very protective of that. My partners have all been very...

Closer to seven or eight months, but yes. There were hiccups in the plans. She lost her job, then my wife became ill and I needed to focus on her until she was better. Priorities, right?

I glossed over some details: First off: yes, we're working on meeting once finances and schedules allow. Second: She's moving to my area for several reasons. In fact, we met BECAUSE she was considering moving to my area for career reasons and because she loves the area. Our relationship sort of...

Oh, in that regard. Yes.. I'm "protective", and she thought it was sweet. :P If she had been like that from the beginning, I would have reacted differently. She didn't use to, then suddenly started. It was the sudden change in behavior that threw me off and made me uneasy. But it did...

Oh, absolutely. I totally agree. And that's the way things were in the beginning. It was just the brief "cheating" and lying that caused the hiccup. I'm actually very happy and relieved that she has someone there. I get it. She's a free lover and lets relationships happen, I'm more selective...

I'm married, been with my wife for five years and everything is reasonably well there. I've also been seeing a woman in a long distance capacity since late last year who I have been getting along with amazingly. We haven't been able to meet due to her schooling and my work but the relationship...