Recent content by Rickmanger

Well, the conversation went well. As well as one that emotionally charged can. And ... it's coming. I left some of the extra play out - but he knew it needed to end, and it's going to end... probably in the next couple of weeks he'll tell her (once family is gone). Sigh.

That's... fair. As a tiny bit of defense - we all went separate ways for a good middle-chunk of the 2010s, so I found out about a lot of this after the fact (I had a job with a ton of international travel, we caught up about once a quarter and I saw facebook updates). He is now, but correct...

Sending a message to have a chat this weekend - now that things are stable. Oh, I'm writing it out for sure. But yeah, I want this to be face to face, and Friday/Saturday is my target for that reason (and more flexible schedules).

This is what I keep coming back to. Uninformed decisions are never as good as an informed one - he has to know, because his choices rely on having the right information. Yeah... suffice to say they're scared of the same. Or leaving her home alone with the kid. I'm sure you agree on the "run...

It's a point. It was somewhat a boil the frog, given how "normal" the times not in the first post were. They just got more extreme every bump...

He actually volunteered. He knows her, and he knows what a journey it is to get sober and stay sober. He's done AA and been a sponsor, and is willing to let her try to get clean there with the rule of "no alcohol, ever, in the house - you can walk down the road and right on out."

Thank you - I appreciate it. This ... isn't fun.

Honestly, I'm rough right now. Extremely rough. This time around things feel different - I know part of that is the fact that there IS a fundamental shift with the quad based on the fact that we now have new parents (and their priorities just shifted), and that means even if everything was...

This is a great question. I should have covered it before. There are things my main partner cannot do anymore, due to physical and health limitations, that she is happy I can get elsewhere. Sex is certainly part of it (although that is still pretty equal on both sides), but we led a rather...

That's fair, in a lot of ways. While I'm perfectly fine with polyfiedlity, my role in this (which I made clear early on) was as a "more than FWB, much less than an equal partner, not making permanent changes in any way" so I didn't fully consider the way those words or how I considered those...

I paraphrased/tweaked a lot in that thread - generally only come here when things get really weird (or when I'm just quietly reading and learning). It's supposed to be a closed quad, yes, although it's really me/kelly, shaun/mel, and (dead) shaun/kelly. Was not intentionally - get to that on...

I have effectively stated that, but Kelly - paraphrasing - said "not that big of a deal, didn't go all the way, no one needs to know" - and before I could bring it up again, we had the most recent fight and haven't had a chance to talk like that since. But 100% - this is NOT what polyamory is...

This... is a complex situation that I will do my best to condense down to a readable and understandable format. I'm looking for some... advice isn't quite the right word, as much as a sympathetic ear, a smack upside the head (yeah, I should have walked away a long time ago), and wondering...

Fascinating read; from someone in a poly relationship (hetero, but my GF is bi) and who's realized he's bi with the right people (leans mostly towards a demisexual side; the right guy turns me on, most don't)... the definitions and spectrum is amazing.

Definitely anxiety. Because of the speed of all of this, and because I have a concern that the limited time we all have with her will get spread too thin. I know, that is ~my~ problem to handle, not hers - precisely - but it is a concern that I have. There's just... so little time right now...