Recent content by RiverGoddess

Ughh, oyyy... I can so feel you on this one! I totally get why you feel the way you do, and I'm sorry you are going through this. I feel like his behaviour is a bit of a red flag. I would be uneasy with it and feeling insecure about the situation, as well. I wonder if he is pushing you away...

Thanks Kevin. It's true - I do think he flirts too much. I think instead of leaving the room, I might just gently interrupt him and ask... "Boil it down to one sentence, and I'll ask more if I need to know"... or something like that. Thanks for helping me think of an alternative way to deal with...

This actually does describe me too, however, I think the frustration for me is that he goes out and flirts it up intentionally; so the people aren't "mistaking" his vibes, per say, but he's somewhat misrepresenting himself/his intentions. With me, I like to have meaningful conversations, make...

Gala Girl, thank you for your thoughts. It is not quite so intense as listing 100 interactions, or even 10. It's not quite like that. But I do think I will set boundaries regarding what point I want to hear. I don't think I need to hear about every phone number or e-mail address, unless he...

I actually had not pin pointed the feeling as anxiety. THANK YOU. You are totally right, it makes me feel anxious! It feels like a relief to identify the emotion. Maybe I can express this to him with these words and he might get it. I don't feel like I can ask him to dial down the charisma, but...

Hmm, I see how that could be read two ways. Yes, I meant "those people over there"... as in, he seems to think he is a positive force in the lives of strangers, by flirting and chatting and giving them little boosts of unexpected positive energy in their day. I see how that could have sounded...

I know I have posted about this a little bit before, and here I am again, needing to work out what it is that is bothering me about my partner's excessively flirty demeanor. I am going to try to hash it out here, so thank you in advance for listening. Your feedback is welcome. As I have...

Hi Erika, I feel like your request is totally fair and I ask the same thing of my partner. I actually ask that he changes all of the bedding, including pillow cases (I don't want to smell her hair/perfume), and that he is well showered before we reconnect. If he feels that changing the bed...

So just as I suspected, wi-fi went down at his camp. I received the backlog of messages all at once when he reached cell zone, and he called me as soon as he was possibly able. Of course. I actually think I was doing better before we spoke. I came to a place of feeling grounded and okay about...

Thanks guys. I feel a bit better after a good night sleep, but still have that "left hanging" feeling, which isn't cool when he'll be off on his date tonight. It's true that I have made up every excuse possible FOR him, like the wi-fi being down, lost his phone, broke his phone... etc. This...

My partner works away. There is no cell service or telephone where he works - nothing but a bit of of spotty satellite wi-fi. When he is away in camp, we chat via IM each night for a while before bed. It isn't a "requirement", but something we both enjoy as we are very close, and both big...

When your fluid bonded partner adds 'condoms' to the shopping list, and you SWEAR you just picked some up last time... Geez, just how much sex are they hav-- NEVERMIND. :rolleyes:

I feel like the daily relationship should be easy; there should be a certain comfort and compatibility and ease with being with that person. There should not be a lot of quibbling about things and a lot of painful back and forth either. You shouldn't have to fight to get your basic needs met...

"People who are in poly relationships are just not that into their partner. When you really love someone, you want to be with JUST them" :confused: Sigh. Another one: I am friends with several other poly women. One night a group of us were sitting together, and one vulnerably expresses her...

I really enjoyed your post. I actually laughed out loud because it is so true. I do tend towards tall, burly, bearded men. I dig long hair and tattoos. The last three men I have dated were tall, long haired, bearded, viking-types. I definitely do have a type/style that attracts me, but you are...