Recent content by RUourcouple

Welcome oldfrnds It will be an interesting ride for you and your wife if she is truly not on board. Communication will be key. Three years ago I would have said the same thing. We were married for 30 years and doing okay but fortunately we lacked jealousy and we were able to communicate and...

Personally I have some understanding of your problem. My wife and I started looking with an almost identical search 2 1/2 years ago. We were ignorant to how some of these relationships work. At first we felt it would be easy to match up with another couple and live happily ever after.... Through...

yes and that is the point of my confusion. I am not trying to impose my personal wishes on S or BF even though my inner feelings are telling me now that he has slowed down in conversations with S that something changed that he isnt telling us. Yet I am not going to be the one to cause a breakup...

Many thanks to all of you for your thoughts and replies. You are all truly the support system that a person needs when dealing with this situation. It gives me many questions to ask myself and do some soul searching. Just to be clear with everyone my wish is for my wife (S) is to find an end to...

It would be of help to me to have some feedback on our situation from some of you that have experienced poly more than us. First the background. I am Mr. C and S and I have been together for over 35 years, most of them as husband and wife. 2 1/2 years ago we sat down for one of our patented...

Thank you for the reply. Maybe that is something that will need to happen. I did refrain from joining them for a few months, but that was uncomfortable for all because we are a V, and are all friends, so it is social as well as sexual. I guess maybe I worded the issue badly. I was always told...

Wow. And I mean wow! We had a bit of a blowup this afternoon, and I left the heated discussion wishing we would never have discovered our poly side. I know it is the only way we will be truly happy because monogamy is not for us. She is in love deeply with Vitamin A, and is not afraid to...

We tend to side with the mindset of Hades or Black Unicorn. Everything else is double speak. Just dancing around words and twisting them. WE TRULY believe that this is a lifestyle or subculture if you wish because it is not the norm that society embraces or believes to be natural. Loving...

This sounds like a common problem. I have quit looking at OKC the last couple of months. My frustration level with trying to explain poly wasn't getting through. A couple of weeks ago I met a younger lady online that was divorced. She seemed real nice and we messaged back and forth for a few...

In my opinion that sounds like as much information as a person would need for openers to see if there is any interest. The only thing I would change would have been to bring out your relationship status first rather than last. If the reader was into the open relationship status, they will still...

If you would care to hear a couple of comments from the male gender I wouldn't mind chiming in. I read your generic profile and thought it was okay but I was left wondering what your relationship status was??? Obviously from this site I do know that you are married and poly but your OKC profile...

I can certainly understand your confusion right now. It is so hard to describe some of the feelings we will find within ourselves when we sign up for this little poly adventure. Mrs. R has been dating a younger man for over a year and a half now and she proudly calls him her cougar cub. It...

We have been members of this forum for awhile now but I (hubby) have hesitated with an introduction as we want to be sure we really know who we are and what our desires are. You could say that we are in the discovery phase of our relationship even though we have been together for over 35 years...

Hi Belladonna First of all as a member of the male species that has been on numerous dating sites let me apologize for all the males out there with no tact. I get angered at them myself because they have made it tough for poly males like me. My wife and I joined a half dozen dating sites a few...

Sad to say that is so true. I am a mid 50's married man which doesn't make it any easier that being a single male, especially when your poly wife has a string of interested males wanting to meet. Never give up because I know people that have looked for 9 years.