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    Personal Summaries

    Welcome oldfrnds It will be an interesting ride for you and your wife if she is truly not on board. Communication will be key. Three years ago I would have said the same thing. We were married for 30 years and doing okay but fortunately we lacked jealousy and we were able to communicate and...
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    Where can we meet people who understand?

    Personally I have some understanding of your problem. My wife and I started looking with an almost identical search 2 1/2 years ago. We were ignorant to how some of these relationships work. At first we felt it would be easy to match up with another couple and live happily ever after.... Through...
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    2 years and now what???

    yes and that is the point of my confusion. I am not trying to impose my personal wishes on S or BF even though my inner feelings are telling me now that he has slowed down in conversations with S that something changed that he isnt telling us. Yet I am not going to be the one to cause a breakup...
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    2 years and now what???

    Many thanks to all of you for your thoughts and replies. You are all truly the support system that a person needs when dealing with this situation. It gives me many questions to ask myself and do some soul searching. Just to be clear with everyone my wish is for my wife (S) is to find an end to...
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    2 years and now what???

    It would be of help to me to have some feedback on our situation from some of you that have experienced poly more than us. First the background. I am Mr. C and S and I have been together for over 35 years, most of them as husband and wife. 2 1/2 years ago we sat down for one of our patented...
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    Does anyone ever wish they weren't polyamorous?

    Thank you for the reply and maybe that is something that will need to happen. I did refrain from joining them for a few months but that was uncomfortable for all because we are a V and are all friends so it is social as well as sexual. I guess the maybe I worded the issue badly. I was always...
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    Does anyone ever wish they weren't polyamorous?

    Wow and I mean Wow.... We had a bit of a blowup this afternoon and I left the heated discussion wishing we would never have discovered our poly side. I know it is the only way we will be truly happy because monogamy is not for us. She is in love deeply with Vitamin A and is not afraid to express...
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    Upper Midwest couple ??

    We are a very active and health minded couple in search of long term relationship. It is difficult to describe our location. We have a home in both ND and MN are spend different times of the year at each. Our MN residence is in the Twin Cities so that is close to Wisconsin so we have not...
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    Couple Seeking Male for Polyamory Exploration

    I hope all goes well in your search. We have been in a 2 year relationship with a younger man that is part of our marriage in different ways. We may only get together for sex once or twice a month but he is in contact by chat or text to fill in the gaps. My wife and him are very much in love but...
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    What is this "lifestyle" you mention?

    We tend to side with the mindset of Hades or Black Unicorn. Everything else is double speak. Just dancing around words and twisting them. WE TRULY believe that this is a lifestyle or subculture if you wish because it is not the norm that society embraces or believes to be natural. Loving...
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    Online dating blows

    This sounds like a common problem. I have quit looking at OKC the last couple of months. My frustration level with trying to explain poly wasn't getting through. A couple of weeks ago I met a younger lady online that was divorced. She seemed real nice and we messaged back and forth for a few...
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    Online dating blows

    In my opinion that sounds like as much information as a person would need for openers to see if there is any interest. The only thing I would change would have been to bring out your relationship status first rather than last. If the reader was into the open relationship status, they will still...
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    Online dating blows

    If you would care to hear a couple of comments from the male gender I wouldn't mind chiming in. I read your generic profile and thought it was okay but I was left wondering what your relationship status was??? Obviously from this site I do know that you are married and poly but your OKC profile...
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    Just opened relationship and girlfriend about to go on first sex date

    I can certainly understand your confusion right now. It is so hard to describe some of the feelings we will find within ourselves when we sign up for this little poly adventure. Mrs. R has been dating a younger man for over a year and a half now and she proudly calls him her cougar cub. It...
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    poly girl from Wisconsin

    That is inspiring that you know what you are looking for. You did not mention your status, whether married or single? That doesn't make any difference but is nice to know for informational purposes. My wife and I are searching for the same. For us it is more about friendship and relationship...
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    Finally time for our introduction

    We have been members of this forum for awhile now but I (hubby) have hesitated with an introduction as we want to be sure we really know who we are and what our desires are. You could say that we are in the discovery phase of our relationship even though we have been together for over 35 years...
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    Online dating blows

    Hi Belladonna First of all as a member of the male species that has been on numerous dating sites let me apologize for all the males out there with no tact. I get angered at them myself because they have made it tough for poly males like me. My wife and I joined a half dozen dating sites a few...
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    Hello from Utah

    Sad to say that is so true. I am a mid 50's married man which doesn't make it any easier that being a single male, especially when your poly wife has a string of interested males wanting to meet. Never give up because I know people that have looked for 9 years.
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    Awkward person not sure where to even start

    peter pan I have to agree with dropping the socially awkward attitude and gain some self confidence. I was one male that need to do the same. We decided we were not swingers but a couple that was looking for something long term. Well as fate was to play out the path that we were to follow. My...
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    Looking for poly

    Dating sites (Poly?) Yes KDT I agree about OKC becoming less of a possibility. As a couple we had spent a couple of years on AFF and as it was posted the inbox was full of fakes and or people that wanted a one time hit it and be gone. As I had stated we had many other profiles from other sites...
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