Recent content by ryguy607

So would it be boundary enforcement to turn off notifications so I can just chill and enjoy my night without arguing about why I am upset she keeps taking Trucker around her friends? I have OCD and one of my compulsion is to read messages if I see the notification.

Tbh I have no idea what you mean by boundaries enforcement. But I can say I suck at boundaries overall.

Yeah, I've kinda been feeling that way too. She's into more non-hierarchical poly. But I told her that I wouldn't be able to be with her unless I was a primary/nesting partner, when we first started talking. I often feel like I'm not on the same page. She thinks it's just because I hate Trucker...

This friend group really only gathers as a group. There hasn't really been any opportunity to get to see them more separately. It's a group of about 4 other couples. So everyone there is partnered up, which I think salts the wound.

I asked what Trucker's opinion was. I put my foot down and said I don't want to hear a peep about her.

When I first moved here I wasn't employed so I didn't have access to my medications so I was kind of insufferable to be around. But apparently in particular they didn't like how I talked about her family, but they are abusive and don't treat her respectfully. Nothing that I said to them was...

I feel like it just hits me in all the places that hurt. She's once again taking Trucker to hang out with her friends instead of me. I've been on bad terms with her friends and have expressed repeatedly that I would like to change that. Since Trucker and I want nothing to do with each other I...

It's definitely not for the faint of heart. She's been poly the whole time but only in the last 6 months or so started pursuing other partners. We are also a mixed neuro type relationship. I'm autistic and she has ADHD so our interpretation of the same event or even sentences can be wildly...

Uhhh well they went from strangers to friends to dating in like a month tops. And Trucker is also a woman. (I'm trans masc with dysphoria that likes to complicate my sexuality, but I'm working on it. Idk if that is relevant but it feels like good context.) Trucker is not poly but I recall Ronda...

I feel like it's my fault. They kept hanging out without me and I wanted to know why. Ronda told me what Trucker said. Lo and behold they started dating not long after that conversation. I'm really not interested in parallel poly. For me, I like the idea of building a little community with...

Hello again folks, I've been trying to work out my feelings about my meta. I'm not sure if I am overreacting or justifiably concerned. Maybe somewhere in between. The situation is this: my gf (Ronda) met someone on bumble BFF to make friends. After hanging out a few times she wanted to...

Hey Tatertot! I wish I could be more helpful, but all I can really say is that you are not alone. I'm in a similar situation. My gf is poly, and while I've had relationships before, this is my first time dating someone who wants to date someone else. There's a lot of information and great...

Thank you all so much! I am so glad to have found this forum. This has been very helpful and I appreciate the advice and insight.

What kind of goals should I set? Would a goal be something along the lines of "We will have a no-phones date night once a week"?

Hi Kevin! I get the majority of her free time, so I feel like I can't say I'm neglected and that she would agree. My fears lie in the fact that I feel like even though I get all this time, it doesn't help me feel connected and close to her. I miss having date nights and deep conversations. I...