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where did everyone go? Broken Arrow I started this thread but eft my poly/mono relationship some years ago and am now happily married to a mono man. I stopped using the email attached to this forum so I wasn't even aware anyone was still interested. I do believe that I have gained a lot more...

Hi, I'm inactive here now, but tried to make a poly/mono relationship work for six years. We loved each other heaps, still do, really. But in the end I (the more mono) pulled the plug, because it wasn't making either of us as happy as we are now. I actually think poly/mono is a spectrum. I'm...

Devil's advocate Okay, this should get the ball rolling. Christianity and poly will never mix well, for many reasons, one of which is that it is viewed as a form of idolatry. Men taking multiple wives was seen as okay, due to necessity, but polyamory is about loving more than one person out of...

Wow, that is amazing progress!! Well done you :)

Hi Monomom I see there is quite a bit of interest and input into your situation, but I'm interested in how you are going? I empathise with you because I know how hard it must be for you to consider leaving your marriage. I had no children with my partner and it still took me six years to work...

Hi Monomum You said I've got access to a wonderful new facility for respite care for our kids. I was looking forward to some time alone with him this summer. I think, given your deeply felt response to his suggestion of opening up your relationship, that spending some quality time with your...

Dearest Monomom It sounds like you may be the one who has been the primary carer of your two additional needs children. That kind of commitment can make anyone feel a bit worn around the edges. I know the insecurity that this kind of admission from a partner can bring up and while it is...

Hey Monomom :) First of all in my experience of this, which is considerable, 6.5 years, I would not be getting too concerned yet. Easy for me to say? Well actually it is because I have been where you are and I often wished I had not taken my partner's "smitteness" so seriously. Many men have...

Finding answers I'm so sorry I missed your message. I don't go into the forum anymore unless I get an alert and for some reason I wasn't alerted to your message. How are you going. Happy to chat with you however you would like. Sage

Hi Monomom My heart goes out to you. Every case of of polyamory is unique, there is no cut and paste solution. From the little info you have given (which is good, some people write a novel and that makes it harder to focus and comment effectively), it sounds like this could be a form of...

"I don't think a person can really know they are poly until the joy they feel of many loves and a big tribe comes crumbling down, and they are left with rubble, and STILL want to date other people, regardless." Yeah, this is Mike, kinda. He's thinks his crumbling relationships have all been...

Finding Answers my heart goes out to you. I know something of your pain because I have been in similar pain and that's why I started this thread. Ironically I have now also become a Christian. My poly partner and I were together for six years and set to get married but that decision seemed to...

Hi Redpepper, Best wishes for your season of change :) We're going through a similar thing at the moment. I've come to the conclusion that polyamory doesn't work in my life, and so Mike (Zen) and I are going our separate ways next year, when our lease is up. Mike limited his poly activity for...

Maybe Magdlyn is living in the Now?

Hi gorgeous kitten Quite the opposite in a way. My partner is poly and after years of trying to be really comfortable with it while remaining mono I tried poly myself but it has never worked in the same way for me. I find it difficult to manage the emotions and I also find that most men don't...