Recent content by salvador

Hi ! To avoid some wrong path of your imagination, I will add few context. She's working hard too, but has a more flexible agenda during the day (prof). Not depressed, she's really happy and just want to explore the polyamory world (It was in her mind since few years), because generally we want...

Thanks MrFarFromRight, Dagferi, Tinwen and Magdlyn for your reply, feedbacks. Agree, with too much limitations, it will not fun for anybody. I think one of the key is to clarify / define this new relationship will help me to fix my point of view, behaviour with all this. That this new...

Hi a) no. I don't think so. b) More simple for me and her, why we need to hide ourself each time we want to communicate. It will be complex in our day-to-day I think. c) Attack ... not sure. It's not an attack but more a need (with a love mindset) he just want more and more communication...

Thanks for your inputs, really helpful for me to share this. I know, in her side, she already tried to care of me with: minimize the interactions and minimize her wishes too. But I know that the second lover (just retired), is waiting, 95% available to share good moments. Based on this, I have...

Thanks ! you're totally right. For me it was ''common sense'', that we should discuss together before to invite our second partner in our house. We will discuss more for sure. Maybe, the real challenge is more the following point. She's dreaming about a ''poly house'' (everybody under the...

Thanks for your advices She will try to fix this with him. But to fix / discuss the new agreement. She decided to invite him in our house when I'm not here. 1 - last minutes 2 - we never discuss to have him in our house. Totally not confortable with this. 3 - could be done by phone now or...

Thanks for your reply @pinkpig: to answer, It's generally short, but he requested to have this every night (like a hard rule). Not confortable not on the sms side but with the "mandatory" thing and the way our dynamic is different after the daily action. We (me more to be honest). And she can...

Hi, After 10 years ( and 2 kids ;-) ). I'm in a couple with my wife started a polyamory relationship. A long friendship changed and her second lover want of course more space, time and her mind. He asked her to call/sms every night before to go to bed. What is your thought about this ? A...