Recent content by Samphire91

I think for now, what happened with Feather was a one-time thing. But I also think my trust with Jim has been broken a bit, and that if we don't come to a more 'open' relationship agreement, I'll alway's worry that he'll drunkenly hook up with someone else anyway. I'd rather just make it open...

Thanks so much Galagirl & Kevin T, Yeah, Galagirl, you've summed it up completely :) To clarify, - They slept together on the first night she was there, then after that nothing happened between them for the time she stayed. Jim didn't want anything sexual or romantic to happen again...

Hah!Yeah, this sounds similar to what my relationship is like a bit :rolleyes: ... Also, I think you're right on how hard it will be to wait 'til I don't have a crush on anyone. This current crush is only getting stronger :confused: lol.

Update? Hi all, here's an update - things have been going... strangely? So, yeah, Jim and I have been working pretty hard on ourselves, dealing with all the rot and shit that can get caught up in an unhealthy relationship. We're both still booked in to get professional help for our own issues...

Thanks KDT26417 & Fuchka. Yeah that is a good idea to have a time when there's no one else on my mind, to come back again and talk about it. That is how I originally bought it up (just talking about having past crushes on people) and this time I brought it up again when I had feelings for...

Ps. For transparency/understanding - It's looking like I'm dumping all the relationship issues onto Jim. It goes both ways. Not sure if this is TMI, but I also need to look at my own mental health :rolleyes:. I got a lot of my own things to work on that are affecting myself and our relationship...

Update - looking a bit better! Hi all, Thanks again so much for your input. I think I maybe spoke too soon, as in Jim and I were right in the middle of figuring things out, and I was stressed and confused and came to post the problems in here. Thank you :). Over the last few day's since...

Yea, this is really great advice. As you can see by the situation, there is a lot of toxicity in this relationship. Some of it coming from my side too. It's getting really unhealthy :(. I really want to try and work it out though. I wanna see a healthier version of both of us where we don't...

Update & thank you Hi all, just wanted to say thank you for all your responses, I was pretty overwhelmed as I wasn't expecting such well thought out replies. Apologies for the late reply! Was waiting 'til I had an outcome, but really it's an ongoing story :confused: :p. It's so hard to explain...

Hey all, sorry if this is confusing, I'm confused too! So, my partner (M,34) & I (F,28), have been together for about 2 years, but were friends for a long time before-hand. The whole time I knew him, he was my most open-minded, supportive friend. He always identified as Poly & bisexual. And...