Recent content by SheBLittleButFierce

Thanks GalaGirl. I have already said that and told her I have a view of cheating that involves any lying, broken promises (like fluid bonds) or being less than honest. It wasn't in reference to this primary though. I'll just tell her all of my tags for cheating popped up and let her go from...

So I was here a few months ago and desperately asking for help because my primary was a gaslighting narcissist. I dumped him but in the midst of it I've become very good friends with his other girlfriend who also dumped him. She is new to poly but always believed open relationships could work...

I broke it off with my primary partner (only actually) after a year over communication. Everything I said was something he would respond to with a "think about this" response and then hang up with me and wait to call me. He, incidentally went home to other women when he would scold me. I had to...

I agree. I've been up front about my desire to stay away from marriage so he should be able to express his end goal as well. I think he realizes that I've left room for the rejection in a manner that addresses his desire to marry and my avoidance to that. Incidentally, I'm not sexually attracted...

This is exactly what I think, you've just managed to be more eloquent about it! The kinks are kinks regardless of sexual lifestyles or relationship types but the "oddity" parts aren't strange they're just multifaceted and very complicated sometimes. As for the marriage part, that is cultural...

Thanks for the insight. I've always viewed physical pain as an adrenaline thing...like a broken bone. Short healing time and one can forget the pain. That's makes me view emotional pain as far more damaging so I often fail to see emotional health for people who like negative feelings. He's being...

So I've run across some oddities in the kink side of polyamory. This may or may not be a sexual kink. There is a guy who wants to date me with the end goal of marrying me so that he can be a cuckhold. He claims this is someone who gets off on feelings of jealousy and anger. The side effect is...

My favorite aspect of the book is that it blatantly asks why we are so eager to make excuses for our violent behaviors by looking at chimps but refuse to acknowledge that bonobos (or even violent chimps) are capable of good if not Noble culture sharing! It has the mood of changing the way we...

Thank you for the link! I am really excited about this and have to admit to confirmation bias since much of the info in this book comes from studies that I'm learning of in anthropology! So exciting!

Reading is my first and most ardent lover and has never failed me. I've found yet another gem! Has anyone read this?! I don't know if the photo will show up on the mobile platform so it is title Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cecilia Jethá I usually don't recommend books until I'm...

Thank you for the responses. I will try to clarify. The constant conversation was one of the reasons I fell for this guy. He's helping me break the cycle ofemotional abuse coming from my family which wants to live on a piece of land together and fought me on my children receiving a "secular"...

There is a cautionary tale hiding here...the worries of the gf/wife being with another man are understandable from a biological standpoint. But it has to be said, "allowing" additional partners when they are female and can service your fantasy could be frowned upon. There are a lot of men out...

Hello everybody, again! I'm a 32 year old F and single mama planning a huge move to where my primary lives. Mainly for school but also since he is there and my children will be a bit closer to their dad. I'm in a bit of a quandary. I was raised in a ridiculously religious home and all the past...

Hello Ella, I don't have advice but I do have support. I'm sorry that your family is less than supportive. As a Bi woman with a deeply religious upbringing, I understand how family can make or break confidence and self-acceptance. In a decade or two this will be different for everyone, but for...

I'm kind of new to terminology though not new to the lifestyle. What is "escalator?" Also, I LOVE that you found the pressure alleviated! Me too! It's exhausting trying to "be" everything for anyone. One of my biggest problems was that am very loving and adore touching, pampering and having...